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Beginner August 2020

Thoughts on future sister-in-law’s dress

on July 7, 2020 at 12:47 PM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 26

So my fiancé and I had decided to do a small wedding party - only maid of honor and best man to avoid issues of who gets to part of the wedding or not. His older sister has mixed opinions of me because she doesn’t like that I speak my mind. Well recently she took his other sister shopping for a...
So my fiancé and I had decided to do a small wedding party - only maid of honor and best man to avoid issues of who gets to part of the wedding or not.
His older sister has mixed opinions of me because she doesn’t like that I speak my mind. Well recently she took his other sister shopping for a dress to wear to the wedding and sent him a picture. He showed me a picture and I was baffled. The dress (see picture) is mostly white with some flowers. I feel that it is way too much white to wear to someone else’s wedding, especially being a family member and not just a random guest. His younger sister is 23 and the older one (who doesn’t like me) is 35. I feel both of them are old enough to understand that it is not okay to wear white to a wedding!

I feel like at this point I’m better off just biting my tongue to avoid any hatred toward me. I know that if I say anything they’ll just say I’m being annoying 😒. What would you do if you were me?cfb_1406711.jpg

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  • M
    Master October 2021
    Mrs.a ·
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    Since it is 50% floral I wouldn’t think twice about it,
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  • B
    Dedicated April 2021
    Bridget ·
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    I personally would not wear white to someone elses wedding. But I agree that she will not be mistaken for the bride in this dress. And the fact that the sister sent your fiance a picture means she probably knows it was going to bother you. So dont let her win. Let her wear the dress and act like it doesnt bother you one bit. Dont let her get the best of you.
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  • J
    Beginner August 2020
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    I think maybe that’s why it bothered me. Because I knew she purposely did it to see if I’d say anything. When she asked me about it last weekend I actually said it was fine, just to avoid giving her anything to say.
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  • MOB So Cal
    January 2019
    MOB So Cal ·
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    Based on what you've shared, it sounds like yours was the perfect response. If you think someone is trying to get a rise out of you, often the best reaction is to NOT give them what they expect.... Good for you! Have a great wedding! Smiley heart

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  • Katie
    VIP August 2021
    Katie ·
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    I agree with this. If it is to much white she is going to look bad cause people will be judging her. My personal preference is that when it comes to a wedding, guests should stay away from white outfits in general rather it has flowers, polka dots or any other little detail that could possibly let it slide by. It's not at all about if guests will confuse the guest wearing white for the bride, it's about respect plain and simple. If you are upset I'd just see if your fiance could see if she could wear something different. If not I wouldn't worry too much cause like I said guests will judge her if they don't think it's appropriate and she will end up feeling like a fool.
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    Just Said Yes May 2021
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    My sis in law did too.. I didn’t know until she showed up for pictures wearing it. Seeing as there was no use in fighting it at that point, I rolled past it, but now it irks me when I look at our wedding pics. If it bugs you, it bugs you. You don’t have to justify how something makes you feel, or ignore it just because others don’t understand your feelings.


    (His parents and sis also didn’t show up at the venue until like 3pm the day of the wedding despite being invited to spend the day getting ready with us, but that’s a whole other story.) Thoughts on future sister-in-law’s dress 1


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