"The Toast"

I'm not a big fan of overdoing alcohol at weddings. Not everyone is going to drink, so not everyone will appreciate a shot glass.....

Because of everyone's different preferences about drinking... I don't know if I'd choose a shot-glass for a favor. Maybe multiple favors, something more sedate for your family and give the shot glasses to the party-kids?

How any speeches/toasts are you having? I dont' really have a problem with drinking shots at a wedding, but if you have the MoH and the Best Man speak, maybe your parents, possibly anyone else that wants to say some words... and suddenly your groom and friends have had 5 shots in less than 30 minutes.

I'd push him away from the idea of finishing off the toasts with a shot, and just let him know he and his friends can do shots later in the reception. I know my FH and his buddies have plans to celebrate the event (or any event really) with irish car-bombs. And that's OK with me - as long as he doesn't have too many!

We did shots of Jack after our toasts. (My MOH brought them for the bridal party). It was just one shot each though and the glasses were not personalized. I feel like tequila as a wedding toast drink could cause some issues. A lot of people are idiots when they are drunk.

Im doing somthing like that at my wedding.

I have personalized shot glasses that the bartender is going to pour (choise of rum [my dad loves rum] ,vodka [fh is russian] or cranberry juise for the nodrinkers) and pass them out just befor my dads toast (their for his toast). We have wine for the other toasts.

I know people can be so dumb wen they drink thats y i dont want to do it an i was thinking of just keeping the shot glasses in the bar and if they have a shot they can take one only? how would that look?

This sounds trashy to me.

Also, generally you aren't supposed to mix drinks...its one thing to have a few sips of champagne while you are drinking something else, but do you really want people doing a shot of tequila along with whatever OTHER alcohol they are drinking?

If you have any non-drinkers or conservative drinkers, they aren't going to look to kindly on this. trust me, my parents are just about non drinkers (not quite, but they were for years), and I know if they went to a wedding that did tequila shots as the toast, they'd have a bad impression of the couple. (just giving an example)

Also..are there kids? obviously they wouldnt get the alcohol, but do they really need to be seeing every adult around them take shots?

You need to be careful about what your venue even allows.

When we signed a contract with our venue, they told us straight up that shots were not allowed. And that the bartender wouldn't mix more than 3 different types of alcohol into a single mixed drink. Anyone who seemed overly wasted would be escorted off the property. They need to be able to run a respectable and profitable place of business and we both understood that. Having a reputation for guests doing shots and potential mayhem was not what our venue was interested in.

If you are dead set on doing this, make sure it's ok with your venue first. And be up front with how many people you expect to participate. I know you all want to have a good time but is it really worth it?

Nicole, I am finding that more and more. At least four of the venues I was in last month had 'no shot' rules (ha ha...not that I asked for them, but I happened to be within earshot...)

Omg really a no shot rule lol thats hilarious never heared that before!! well in my venue they didnt have that nor they put to much rules. we are not having kids at our wedding. and also I am concern that people could mix there drink an i wouldnt want that its just that my fh dosent understand that!! but hopefully i can show him that its not safe for everyone to do this =)

Ask him what he would do if somebody made him drink X (name something he hates). We did all toasts with whatever people were already drinking. Most champagne I've seen at weddings goes to waste, and I don't see what's wrong with letting people toast with whatever they already chose to consume.

I don't think it's trashy at all. Now if it were turned into a drinking game where every time someone made a toast or rang a bell you all did shots, THAT might be trashy, but doing a shot? I fail to see what makes that trashy. Bottom line is that it is YOUR wedding. You and Fh are the only people who matter when making these decisions. It's always nice to have input, but you're the ones who have to be happy in the end

@jackilynC i like your point!! i guess after so much planning you do forget who matters the most and its my fh & me =)

Hi this is fh @Caitlin tnk u for idea servers will b having a tequila bottle in one hand and cranberry pitcher in the other hand. perfect!! guests will choose on drink of toast and makes easier on those who prefer not to drink or mix tequila. Will even have the option of toasting with what ever other drink they are having (soda, H2O) . There is only going to be one toast so that guests are not drunk in 30 min. Looking for shot glasses that are smaller than regular shot glasses if that also helps for those against my idea. Don't take it personal i appreciate your comments and ideas.

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