the polite way to say NO!

Also, I'm saying "we just want a very intimate ceremony, so I'm really not inviting anyone. We have a huge family and that's pretty much our max capacity for the venue right there"

I don't know what it is about Weddings but people always like to invite themselves. You and your FH need to sit down and go over your guest list. Either way it goes someone feelings is going get hurt because they feel like they should have gotten an invite. It's Ok to say NO especially if you have already booked your venue.

I don't have any other advice than what everyone has said but damn, I feel for you girl! good luck!!

One thing I've learned by being ancient is that we tend to think our decisions affect others in a way more dramatic and lasting way than they usually do..... I don't mean decisions to run away and join th circus, that kind of thing, but decisions like not doing OOT bags, not inviting kids and cutting guest lists. Life will go on, and you'll feel empowered by sticking to your decisions.

I just had this happen to me yesterday , I just mentioned to a woman that I was getting married really quick and had to leave well the next day I run into a mutual friend of ours who is coming to the wedding and be says oh yeah Betty is coming with us to your wedding ,we are going to stay at the same hotel. !!!! I'm pretty sure we are already to our max on the guest list( still waiting for MIL list) and Im going to be having some kind of get together after the wedding for my friends here !!!! I thought cause it was 5 1/2 hrs away no one from here would want to come. I was wrong ,now I'm going to have to say NO

I've had lots of people I work with assume they're coming...and we just aren't having it. I did cut a whole side of my family because of some drama recently that I'm not tolerating, so that cut the guest list down quite a bit. Celia's advice is always on point. Go with what she said. Be that bridezilla, girl.

Thanks ladies! Celia, you've been a huge help!! Thank you!!