The Newlywed Fund - digital cash registry! What?!?

Oh look, people think this is great. Why don't you like cash in hand? You do know that these registries hang on to the funds until after your wedding date, then take a percentage. Instead, you could not be crass, and your friends and family could give you cash that you can roll around in on your wedding night after you open your cards. But you know, if you object that much to cash on hand and like giving corporations huge amounts of money, this is definitely your kind of thing.

@Jessie

Ok? Thanks?

Definitely had lots of positive feedback from my shower on Saturday about the creativity of my honeyfund. And I paid the balance for our honeymoon off this morning with what they contributed.

You're on the anti-honeyfund boat I get it. We'll agree to disagree.

@Jameena-it's nice when people are nice to your face. The last wedding I went to had a Honeyfund, you should have heard the gossip. Also, people tend to remember who have no manners and distance themselves. You're young, you probably just need a heads up.

I suggest that the next time someone asks you where you're registered you just say, "We're not registering. We would much rather have cash."

Let us know how that works out.

Yep, it's a good thing I'm not because I'd have a Donald Trump garden gnome in hand once I saw the honeyfund.

@Jessie

I'm not concerned with what people say behind my back... at all. No one should!

I'm confident in my friends and family so I don't have anything to worry about. And yes, I am young but I don't think I need this particular heads up. Thanks anyway!

@Celia you're back! *waves*

Tacky much? Not talking about anyone specific....just the idea of spelling it out so bluntly is gross to me.

Eta: clarity

My friend is doing this. Wouldn't have if she hadn't seen it on The Knot. She wants money for a down payment on a house. I couldn't change her mind. Smh. :/

Y'all need to take a step down from the top of self righteous mountain and realize that asking for a $300 mixer is the same thing as asking for $300.

So to all you honetfund haters I have a question. You propose that a fund is “tacky”. To me it seems smart...So propose a better solution while addressing these concerns 1. FH and I are older (35 and 38) have lived together for three years and prior to that each owned our own home for 10 years. When I say we have enough stuff and don’t need to register I do not exaggerate. We have two households worth of everything and need to downsize. So what? Don’t register at all. Let people guess we want money to build a house? Seems odd? 2. My FH is a police officer. For those of you suggesting/implying people should ask for cash. It is a HUGE security issue to have potentially $10,000 worth of cash just sitting around at a venue. Do you know how many venue thefts happen that way? It’s just naive to think otherwise. Unless you’re willing to ruin a guests wedding experience by watching the cash or hiring security. Both ridiculous. So to me honeyfund is not only convienent for guests (no finding your checkbooks, no walking around with cash, no worries about forgetting your gift at home) but it solves my two problems in one shot. To me letting our guests know that they will literally be financially contributing to buying materials to build our home. A home we will raise our children on and grow old in and that they can visit knowing that they helped build it is the opposite of tacky. I think tacky is asking for money for no set, or frillvilous purposes. I think letting your guest know that they are a Pry of providing a roof over your families head is a lot less tacky than buying us some blender from Williams and Sonoma that we’ll use twice..

Tacky and I wouldn't give to it if I was invited.

View Quoted Comment I'm in a similar situation/age. I'm just not registering for anything and I'm grateful for people coming to my wedding. Maybe you can register at Home depot or Lowe's instead?

Why is there an uptick in reviving old threads?

"So to all you honetfund haters I have a question. You propose that a fund is “tacky”. "

Because it is tacky.

I've been to several weddings lately that had a fund on their registry and I thought it was great.

Hey I don't see it as tacky. So would you rather buy someone something that is going to sit in a cabinet and never be used (that's wasting your money too). Or would you want them to go on a nice trip, or start a fund for a house, or for their future kids. I don't know about some of you ladies, but we are basically paying for EVERYTHING on our own. Also, both being military and have lived on our own for years now, we have everything we need and don't want more things that we have no room for (no storage in our home now and also because we're not in our forever home. So yes I would much rather have a card or cash because we are trying to save for our future. If you don't want to well hey that's okay get me something sentimental but if I want a toaster I would go buy it myself. It's also different now because a lot of couple live together before they get married meaning that pretty much have what they need. Back in the day people didn't live together so the wedding was the perfect time to receive things for their household they didn't have yet. So maybe not judge people on their circumstance.

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Seriously! Hahaha amen to that!

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I think the point is asking for ANYTHING is tacky. Gifts should not be mentioned in any form, be it straight cash or a material gift.

If it’s tacky to fund your vacation, it’s tacky to fund your kitchen and bathroom too.

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I think she's simply saying those who have more money at their disposal are considered privileged or advantaged and may not need the money as much as someone else who has to work harder for it. The whole idea of wedding registries is all a part of the big wedding industry capitalizing off of love so I don't see why everyone's making a fuss at putting money into a person's hands rather than another store/corporation to get them a gift they potentially don't need. I say send them off into marital bliss in the way that will bless them most. People should get out of their feelings. They're paying for your plate so just put the money back in their hands. Simple.

We just need to respect and accept each other's opinions, I wonder if those who said it's tacky have traveled outside the U.S. you should not be so closed minded, if you explore the world (not just your surroundings) you will know that this is based in traditions. For example, Japanese and Italians give money to the newlyweds at their reception, it is also completely normal in Spain, Armenia, and Latin America (where you get a lot of those traditions from Europe).