The Newlywed Fund - digital cash registry! What?!?

I think asking for money I tacky. However, if you're going to do it, at least receive the full amount and not a cut of your money....

@Richard Gross! Wow that's pretty bad lol.

I'm willing to pay the 2% at the expense of being tacky. As opposed to giving people your Venmo or PayPal account? Ok THAT'S tacky!

People get to see what they're contributing to which is also considerate of the bride, since she is "being tacky" and asking for money. That's why when I first saw a honeyfund registry I thought it was an awesome idea!

But @Jameena in a honeyfund, you don't actually get those excursions. The bride and groom just get cut a check, and they get that check after the wedding, so they don't even get to use the $$ on their honeymoon. They also aren't obligated to actually do any of the things the guests "buy" for you.

@bemyguest

I get that! And I've fully disclosed that to my guests. I for one do not care what the bride and groom do with the money I gift them. They can pay for their wedding vendors or donate it! If they get cut a check that's great! I plan to actually use the money to fund the excursions I put on the honeyfund site because, well, that's what I planned to do.

I feel the same about giving money to homeless people! The gift is in the giving, not me trying to figure out what they will spend the money on and the whole nine! That's not my business

I don't understand. Every, single wedding I've ever gone to has had cash gifts given to them. Every. Single. One. In some cases, enough for down payments on homes or travel expenses. This was in the time before these registries when people just put a couple of hundred dollars in a card and boom, done. No service fees, no percentage off the top. I don't understand why you don't just not be gauche and get cash.

@jameena I'm on the it's tacky to ask for money through a honeyfund side but my biggest problem is that such programs mislead guests into thinking they're giving an experience or an item and they don't disclose they're taking a cut. I personally have slightly less of a problem with the blueprint/Zola type options that may have a donate to our honeymoon/house/car/college fund option as well as physical gifts because it seems less misleading at least. But I don't think there's anyone who doesn't know cash is an option for a wedding and how to give it.

@august

It may be tacky, I guess I just don't care. Not to be rude or anything, I just am that kind of person that can careless about norms or tradition.

I feel like people who use them should disclose that info with their guests but I don't see it as being misled. Whatever the money is used for shouldn't be the gifters concern. The crazy thing is people sell their gifts and take back the gifts they receive from their guests all the time. I'd rather be honest and up front with what I want, which is money, by any means...

"I'd rather be honest and up front with what I want, which is money, by any means... " wow....

I'm honestly speechless.

@hisbeauty

Sorry girl. I think because it's not wrapped in pretty floral wrapping paper it sounds crass. I don't sugarcoat.

Judge me! Lol

@Kristin

I mentioned to another poster that my words were "aren't as privileged to afford a celebration."

The word privilege shouldn't offend you but if it does... I'm sorry about that.

@Brandi

Haha. You gotta brace yourself sometimes if you dissent from the majority! And yes I understand what you mean, that fee is not fun.

I rarely see more than one or two boxed gifts at a wedding, but if you asked for it you betcha I'd find the ugliest lawn ornament I would.

Here's an idea; skip the wedding celebration and pay for your own honeymoon.

Wow!!! New to me... Won't do that, that's crazy

Jameena, you differ from the majority because most people care if they're being rude.

Oh no...why?!

@Celia

Thanks but no thanks. I guess it's good I don't have to worry about someone like you coming to my wedding. Thank goodness right?

@Jacks

I haven't been rude this whole discussion, I've actually been quite polite. I'm only rude when I have to be and that's rare. Most people don't dissent from the majority because it's not the majority. That's all.

Great discussion/debate. Cheers to those with traditional gift registries and honeyfunds. Do what fits you and no one else. See y'all on the other side!

@Jameena you go girl! good for you for standing your ground about how you feel. sometimes I'm afraid to ask questions or ask for input because some of the people on these pages are super negative and judgemental. I'm the type of person who doesn't care what other people do because it doesn't affect me, and it's not my place to tell anyone that the way they do things is right or wrong. if you ask for input or suggestions, I'll help you out, even if I don't like or don't agree with what you're doing. #yourweddingyourchoice

We went to a wedding and the gift was a fund for their honeymoon and I thought this was a great idea as it was anonymous so if you only had 10 to spare or had 400 it didnt make a difference, the couple got to go on their dream honeymoon and the guests got to give them a memory forever