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Kendra
Devoted June 2017

The day after the wedding

Kendra, on February 27, 2017 at 8:57 PM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 56

What did you/are you planning to do the day after the wedding? My FH and I are getting married Saturday and leaving for our honeymoon Tuesday. We're staying at a little bed and breakfast the night of the wedding. Recently a bunch of people have been asking me what our plans are for Sunday, the day...

What did you/are you planning to do the day after the wedding? My FH and I are getting married Saturday and leaving for our honeymoon Tuesday. We're staying at a little bed and breakfast the night of the wedding.

Recently a bunch of people have been asking me what our plans are for Sunday, the day after the wedding. I'm really torn. Part of me just wants to spend the day with my husband--I know we're going to be exhausted and want to catch our breath. Then again, we have a lot of OOT guests coming to the wedding that I would love to spend more time with, and I'll have the whole honeymoon to enjoy my husband Smiley smile

If we decide to have a brunch or something on Sunday, that brings another storm of questions--who do we invite? who pays? i honestly don't want to have to invite everyone who came to the wedding, and even inviting all OOT guests would be a lot.

appreciate any advice!

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  • Abbey
    Expert October 2017
    Abbey ·
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    We'll likely do family only at our house for some food (likely pizza) and gift opening. Nothing formal, not before 12 pm, and not very long.

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  • CuteNickname
    Super July 2017
    CuteNickname ·
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    We have a lot of OOTG,in fact our entire families are OOT. The wedding is Sunday July 2nd, and most people are staying in town until July 4th. We're hosting family and the wedding party at our home the day after the wedding. The party will start at 2 pm, which gives everyone time to sleep in and freshen up. It's traditional in Poland (where my fiance was born) to host a day-after gathering.

    It's an opportunity for everyone to see our home and just relax and spend quality time together. We got an estimate from a local Italian place to cater food and it is only going to cost about $1,000 to provide beer, wine and food to ~100 people. Yes....we have huge families and a big wedding party. Since pretty much everyone is traveling we really wanted to thank them and also spend quality time with them.

    Yes, our house is big enough (4,000 sqft) and we are renting tables and chairs

    We know some folks will need to travel home and won't be able to make it, and aren't taking it personally. ETA: $1K and 100 ppl is the upper limit....hopefully it'll be closer to 70 ppl and $700 or so.

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  • Justina
    Devoted July 2019
    Justina ·
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    My family does a brunch the day after where we eat leftover food and the newly married couple opens their gifts...also a great place to invite out of Towners. Unless you have someone that volunteers to host this is something you would host. My mom offered up to host at her house

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  • EM
    Master April 2017
    EM ·
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    We are getting married on a Sunday with the hopes that no one has any expectations of any "day after brunches" or any such nonsense.

    We are staying in a B&B the night of, then we will head back to our apartment on Monday afternoon. We don't leave for our honeymoon until a few weeks after the wedding, but we do have a couple of days off immediately after the wedding to be married Smiley winking

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  • Future Mrs. Holz
    Super June 2017
    Future Mrs. Holz ·
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    We are having a brunch and then calling it a day, I know everyone will be exhausted by the time Sunday rolls around

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  • R
    Super June 2017
    Robin ·
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    Father's day is the next day so we are having a part with my dads family

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  • H
    Dedicated July 2017
    Haseena ·
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    Having alot of OOTG as well, plan to spend Sunday with them at my parents house and have a chill bbq, simple not to expensive

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  • PBiazinha
    VIP May 2018
    PBiazinha ·
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    In the case of a DW am I expected to host breakfast/brunch?

    I really didn't budget for that

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  • Elizabeth
    Master December 2016
    Elizabeth ·
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    We had a farewell brunch, which was great because it gave us time to spend with our guests one last time before everyone leaves. The wedding day is so hectic that you don't really get a chance to say much more than hi and thanks for coming to everyone. At the brunch, we could say goodbye to each person individually. We paid, of course. You would have to pay if you invite people.

    After the brunch, some guests left. My family stayed and they got to go skiing (we got married in the mountains) while we went back to the suite and took a nap. Afterwards, we all went to dinner together and had a nice night.

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  • Mrswelch
    Master December 2017
    Mrswelch ·
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    Our wedding is on a Sunday, so I'm not sure there will be anything the day after. We'll probably say goodbye to family, but I'm not sure if it'll be more on an individual basis or a hosted breakfast. I know we'll be leaving for the honeymoon pretty immediately (or that's the plan anyway), but this is a detail I haven't really given much thought to lol. I'm hoping for some relaxation after all that stress that's for sure!

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  • FutureMrsReed
    Devoted July 2017
    FutureMrsReed ·
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    We are getting married on a Saturday. Our reception ends at 7:30 so we are going to a local 4th of July fireworks show with friends and family afterwards. Getting up at 8 am the next morning to drive 8 hours to our honeymoon.

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  • FutureMrsIzzo
    Expert September 2017
    FutureMrsIzzo ·
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    Probably having a brunch and hitting the beach before our honeymoon in Hawaii! We're getting married the Friday of Labor Day weekend and aren't leaving for our honeymoon until Tuesday. So we have a couple of days to relax

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  • Lauren
    VIP October 2017
    Lauren ·
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    We are getting married on a Saturday and leave for our honeymoon Monday. We plan on staying in the hotel block with guests Saturday night. Our venue is a friend's property so we will definitely be heading back to make sure everything we need to clean up is done and head home to pack for our honeymoon.

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  • YouCanCallMeDot
    VIP January 2017
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    We had breakfast/brunch with out of town guests at the hotel. We then went home to finish packing for the honeymoon since we were leaving that day. Luckily we had some extra time as my wedding band broke because of a manufacturer defect and we were at the jeweler most of the afternoon before the flight.

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  • Kendra
    Devoted June 2017
    Kendra ·
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    Thanks so much everyone! i think we might try to do something casual later in the day. so we'll have the best of both worlds--relax in the morning, spend time with guests in the afternoon.

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  • Kim
    Super August 2017
    Kim ·
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    We're flying out on our honeymoon the day after. But... we have a lunch time wedding so it'll be much easier!

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