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The blues with wedding planning😥

Megan, on August 26, 2019 at 11:23 PM Posted in Planning 0 6

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To make things kind of short and sweet to get to my point.. I’m feeling the blues. As the bride, I’m sure as many of you, there’s no doubt that plans have changed (maybe a lot, like mine has) since the original planning started. As a “younger” bride to some (21), you’d think there’s a lot of friends of ours to be guests at the wedding, well as it turns out, there really isn’t a lot of people other than family and extended family attending (which is still amazing, don’t get me wrong and I’m super thankful for those who will be attending), it’s just with only 54 days left until the wedding, I guess I’m just feeling a bit down. My fiancé and I are having an out of state wedding and this whole planning experience really has been stressful and I’m just noticing more of who we’d like to be there, friends-wise, won’t be able to. Granted, there’s not many friends on both sides already, (we’re both kind of outgoingly-shy and know who we get along with) I guess it’s a bit hard to feel like a lot of other younger couples, who we know, that are getting married are having these super full of friends weddings and I don’t know, I guess I’m just looking for some advice on forgetting all the dumb details and getting my focus back to the grand skeem of things! I need some hype men/women for the big day!! I hope someone can kind of relate..✨ Thank you all in advance! Xoxo

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Latest activity by Clíodhna, on September 27, 2019 at 9:39 AM

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Samantha · on August 27, 2019 at 12:40 AM
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I completely understand how you feel. This entire wedding planning process has been a huge headache and has caused a lot of stress between me and my FH and my dad. My dad has dictated the guest list completely since he's paying for it. We are having a mini destination wedding on a Sunday and I'm starting to get nervous that most people won't come, especially since we had to be extremely careful with who we invited because of my dad. We invited 95 people and as of right now we only have 42 people that have RSVP'd. Our cutoff date is 9/15, invitations went out 2 weeks ago. I really wish we would've just eloped like FH wanted to do and then had an amazing honeymoon.
Try to just focus on the big picture of how beautiful your wedding is going to be and that you're going to marry the love of your life! That's what's helping me get through my "wedding planning blues". I hope that helps!
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Trista · on August 27, 2019 at 1:38 AM
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I'm also a fairly young bride (24 in October) and I've similar feelings regarding the guests. Pretty much all of my local friends are in the bridal party, and the others that aren't can't make it. I'm pretty bummed thinking about how it will mostly be my moms friends at the wedding, but I'm not letting it get to me. Keep your head up and remember that you'll still have fun, no matter who is/isn't there!
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Futuremrsm · on August 27, 2019 at 6:54 AM
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I'm 21 as well, and my FH and I dont have many friends either. Our wedding party is mostly family, and we have maybe 4 friends in total that are attending the wedding, the rest is family. I understand feeling bummed out, but as long as everyone there loves and supports you both, thats all that matters. Good luck!
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null · on August 27, 2019 at 8:11 AM
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My FH and I are both 21 (will be 22 when we get married) and we also don't really have friends, our entire wedding party is siblings and FH's dad as the best man. I have a few girls I text every now and then from when we used to work at restaurants together, but honestly FH and I are just in totally different places in life than other people in our age group. We've both already started our careers while finishing our degrees online, we're getting married, and we're in the process of buying a house. Our wedding will also be mainly family and family friends, a few friends we never see are also invited. Just try to remember that your wedding is about you and your FH and I'm sure you'll have plenty of love coming your way!
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Hannah · on August 27, 2019 at 9:21 AM
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I'm older (29), but my wedding guest list didn't have too many friends either. His parents had more friends at the wedding than we did. It really isn't that big a deal. Honestly, I barely even got time to spend with my friends (or anyone for that matter). The day is a whirlwind. You are surrounded by people that care enough about you to spend the day celebrating with you, whether it's family, your friends, parents' friends, they are all there for you. We had 110 guests and we spent maybe a grand total of 5 minutes with each of them. You just kind if bounce around from people to people and then if you're on the dance floor, people will just start dancing with you. Day of, you won't be counting and grouping who's who.
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Clíodhna · on September 27, 2019 at 9:39 AM
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Hey Megan! How have you been feeling about your planning since? Just wanted to check in
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