The Big (no) Dress Reveal

That was the story with my wedding dress for my first marriage. I shopped with an older sister and my Godmother, was thrilled. Showed my mom who loved it. Then my FMIL, her sister, and a friend went into our room while I was signing for a package, FI and my 4 room apt. and they were nasty. And a lot of things were specific to the dress. And a lot were that it wouldn't be so terribly bad it it were on someone who was ___'__
Fill in : taller; less sturdy, she's like a tugboat! ; more sylph like; prettier, or pretty at all! If we moved the wedding to the fall, I could stomp grapes like a peasant in it. Slipping in comments on my parents ( whom she had not met), my culture and language, which she knows so little about, she got the continent wrong. She wanted a big showy wedding and we didn't. And I could not even look at it on my closet door, hanging there. I could hear the laughing. That wedding never happened. Due to FMIL, we eloped 2,000 miles away. For my second wedding, I shopped myself. Brought my husband (now) , and Mom, to see my 3 favorite dresses. Other than my closest Brother and Dad, No one else saw it til I was wearing it for real.
( Min- the post disappeared. Most often we agree. But several recently, no. It is not personal. I think we just see things very differently.)

I ordered a custom dress and it was shipped to me back in august .. i needed mom to help me get into the dress, and then some younger sisters saw me in it, so i sent pics to my other sisters as well, and my mom’s mom saw it, and 1 brother, total of 10 peeps have seen it so far, ALL OF THEM have said how great i looked in it and that the dress was “me”!! I was the only one to have negative comments and I had to send it back to the seamstress because as the length was WAY to long and she didn't add pockets when i asked for them (and when i went back to the paperwork, she had acknowledged i wanted pockets but never put them in) among a few other issues ... hoping to get the finished dress back this month or in january....

I've shown a handful of people my dress, but I'm definitely going to keep it a secret from the people I know who tend towards negativity. I'm all for constructive criticism, but I don't need any second thoughts creeping in about an expensive dress I can't return. I think it's unrealistic to expect everyone to love my wedding dress as much as I do (or even at all!), but I'm also not super interested in hearing it voiced straight to my face, you know?

The only people who have seen my dress are the people who attended the fitting with me. Other than that I'm not showing anyone else my dress, and I have asked that no one else show it as well. Everyone else can wait until the big wedding to see it!

I went shopping for my dress in June & took my FMIL, my sister (MOH) & my daughter (& her now wife). It was lucky dress #7! Everyone said how beautiful I looked in it but I still couldn’t commit. Went to my 2nd appointment but kept comparing it to that last dress. I went back & did get it but I left it at my FMIL’s house. I’m absolutely horrible at keeping my secrets & will be tempted to show my fiancé. I’ve shown a few close friends & they all said it’s gorgeous. I would be crushed if someone said that about me & my dress.

The only people who know my dress are my mom, maid of honor (bestie), and one other friend. Everyone else will have to wait until the day of. I purposely only invited my mom and bestie to my dress appointments because I didn’t want anyone’s personal preference to sway my decision on such my most important dress. Lots of brides get something because others love it but they don’t. I didn’t want that especially if I’m paying.

No. I refuse to show my dress on here. I only took my mom with me dress shopping. I have not showed anyone else besides my younger sister, FMIL and FSIL. Who all also love it.

I haven't shown anyone besides the people who attended the fitting with me and that was just 3 people. I even asked for no photos to be taken except for the last "I said yes" pic for memories sake. Other than that, everyone else will be seeing it at the wedding.

I don’t plan on showing anyone my dress until the big day! I plan on only having my mother (maybe MIL) with me when dress shopping. Those will be the only people who will see my dress beforehand. I don’t want to be bothered by other people’s opinions!

View Quoted Comment That's a wise move! Good luck with your search!

I definitely don’t plan on showing people my dress. The only ones that have seen it are my mom, because she was with me when I picked it out and she purchased it for me. My best friend/MOH, because we tell each other everything. And my hairstylist, who is a close friend and who needed to help me decide on a hairstyle that would look best with the dress (and cuz who doesn’t gossip with their hairstylist?! Lol). I don’t plan on showing anybody else. I think it’s driving my mom crazy not being able to tell anyone what my dress looks like, because everyone is expecting me to wear a black dress and surprisingly (probably most surprising to ME!) I ended up not choosing black! My mom isn’t great at keeping secrets, so I am so proud of her for keeping a lid on this one. I think she about had an aneurysm when we had to postpone, meaning she has to keep the secret for a whole additional year! 😂😂 I also purchased a second identical wedding dress that I am going to have shortened into a party dress for when we all go bar hopping after the reception. NO ONE knows about that dress, so it will be a surprise for everyone. I just know that for me, one of my favorite parts of wedding ceremonies is seeing the bride‘s dress for the 1st time, so I wanted that for my wedding.

View Quoted Comment Omg, my mom sounds like yours. I had a fit because she shared some of our engagement photos when I previously asked her not to. She has trouble keeping surprises hidden.
What color dress did you end up going with?
Is black your favorite color in general attire?

View Quoted Comment Okay thank you for sharing your experiences, Judith.

View Quoted Comment Okay, I'll definitely keep my fingers crossed for you with receiving it sooner than later.

View Quoted Comment I couldn't agree more with you. I definitely believe one should find a dress that they feel beautiful in 💗 that's all that matters.

View Quoted Comment Oh moms 🙄 lol
Black is pretty much all I wear, and I HATE white. I made it known as soon as I got engaged that I would be wearing a black dress, just so my mom could make peace with that before we went dress shopping. Of course she tried to get me to
change my mind, but once she saw me in the black Zander ballgown by Maggie Sottero she actually switched over to team black dress! I fully planned on getting that dress until I found “The One”. Then I had to convince her to come around to a non-black dress 😂 I don’t even know what color I’d call the dress I chose! It has a nude-ish lining that is kind of a camel color with a hint of pink. And the layers are a creamy color. Depending on the lighting, it can look light pink, camel, or gold. It’s definitely going to surprise everyone. Have you decided on what you were going to wear yet?? I know you were thinking of something non-traditional.

View Quoted Comment I agree, people can wait. I'm sure everyone will compliment you on your big day.

I showed my parents (they went dress shopping with me), my 2 bridesmaids, and my bridesman. Everyone else saw it on my wedding day. I didn't care what anyone else's opinions were of MY dress, so I was not worried about being talked into something different.

I showed mine to my parents and my mother in law and my bridal party.

i mean even if they didn't like the dress, it's not something i think i would let affect me because everyone's style is so different. it's like what i like i already know doesn't mean everyone else will or vice versa.

View Quoted Comment You sound very confident and secure with yourself, Melle. Good for you!