thanksgiving weekend wedding...

Okay phew. Well I wouldn't see a problem attending a wedding on the Saturday. But I don't go out of town for Thanksgiving; I know a lot of people do though. I think you should expect average declines. If it were me, I'd send out the STD's 9 months in advance.

Most of my guest will be coming from Atlanta, which is no big deal because that side of the family don't really do anything for thanksgiving. It's just a few guest that are coming from Boston and DC that I'm worried about and they are supposed to be in the wedding. But every other weekend I pick is a problem with my family and I'm sick of it I just want to get this over with and book a venue. The venue I want is $145 per head and they willing to drop the price to $100 for that weekend.

My initial thought was that I wouldn't make it to a Thanksgiving weekend wedding because I typically travel to see my family. BUT- if I was related to the bride or groom, it's likely that all the family would travel and be there for the wedding.

I'd check with your VIP guests & close family to see what they think. If they all could make it, then go for it!

OP, I forgot to add that more than half of our guests will be traveling from all around the country (mostly the Midwest) to FL for the wedding. The out-of-towners are the ones that are surprising us the most with the number of verbal confirmations.

As PPs have said, run the date by your VIPs first. Before we decided on our date we checked with our immediate families and got the okay from everyone.

And if you change the date it's going to be a problem for someone else. FH and I actually didn't ask anyone about the date when we booked - both sets of parents are retired, they don't travel over the holiday weekends and they're the most important ones anyway.

If that's the date you want, then go for it. And I'm not sure I would have asked folks to be in my wedding when I didn't have a date first. I also think you asked people to be in your wedding too soon.

Mine is two days before Christmas so I get the holiday rush thing. I'd say if you're going to do it 1. make sure you have either a *really* small guest list or a lot of in town guests. 2. even if you have that prepare for a lot of declines and be okay with it. All that travel makes people kinda of "meh" after/before the holidays.

It can work just be prepared for people to say no because of a lot of what PP's have said.

@Gymrat you are right but they are my sisters and best friends

I'm surprised so many people do a big thanksgiving celebration. It wouldn't be a problem for me at all. I would prefer thanksgiving weekend over memorial or labor day. If you have a lot of guests coming from oot it will be more expensive to travel so they might decline.

I would avoid it! I was told to avoid having a wedding around any major holiday because there is a very good chance a lot of people wont show up.

I don't see the problem if it was on Saturday or Sunday, but it looks like I'm the minority here. We celebrate Thanksgiving on Thursday and that's it, so I don't see why it would be an issue. I do agree that it will probably work best if most of your guests are in town.

We're doing ours thanksgiving weekend this year

We just made sure to spread the word early AND Send out STDs early as well (like in Jan/Feb.) instead of the traditional 6-8 months out. We're having a small wedding (90ppl) and for the most part, seems as though most are coming! Give ample notice and it should be okay!

If I didn't have to travel for it, it would be no problem. That is the worst weekend for travel and I'm not going there.

I personally think it is a bad idea due to people going out of town to be with other family for the holidays. I will say I have heard that for someone it worked out because all of her family was in town anyway for thanksgiving, so they ended up attending the wedding.

My college roommate got married on the day after Thanksgiving (Black Friday). It worked out great because FH and I were back in Ohio, where we both grew up and went to college, for the holiday anyway, and traveling to be at the wedding was easy for us. But if she had been getting married in a state other than Ohio, we would have had to decline (we live in Nebraska and go back to Ohio for all holidays, so traveling somewhere different would not have been possible).

I mean, I think it's super rude, but you do you.

@Terry - and they'll still be your sisters closer to the wedding. Doesn't matter - relationships can and will change. I've seen it on here time and time again. Doesn't matter though. You haven't even confirmed a date yet so how can they confirm that they will definitely be there? And if they give you a hard time on the date are you going to move your date again?

And despite what A.L. says it's not rude. Inconvenient for some, yes? But it isn't rude. Rude would be you having it on the Saturday, then telling your guests they can't bring their SO because you haven't met them yet.

I would not attend a wedding on Thanksgiving weekend. Lots of people travel out of town to see family. Prepare for a lot of declines.

Like some others, Thanksgiving isn't a big deal in my family. If you were local, I wouldn't care. But there's no way I would be buying a plane ticket around Thanksgiving unless you were immediate family.

Gymrat FTW

Echoing PP's, Thanksgiving weekend is just another weekend for me...although I am usually fatter that weekend, so the early STD would be appreciated so I can buy spanx.