Thank you notes at the wedding.

View Quoted Comment Thank you.

I, personally, am not a fan of this idea. I believe that each thank you card should be personalized. You can not write a personalized that you in this situation as you won't know what gift that guests brought (if they brought one at all), or who actually shows up.

I mean party favors are often the thank you for coming, so i don't really see anything wrong with a note to be frank. i've gone to plenty weddings where i didn't get any thank you for my gift or for attending, so i'd rather get a thank you even if it's generic than none at all.

Absolutely not. Handwrite your thank yous when you get back from your honeymoon.

I Like The Idea And I had That Plan Originally. But Somehow They Didnt End Up On Each Charger Plate Like I Wanted So They Were Wasted Because Of That. And I wasnt About To Mail About Thank You Cards To Everyone For Them To Get Thrown Away Too.

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So you're not doing thank you notes for presents you received?

View Quoted Comment That sucks they didn’t get placed on the chargers!


What did you do instead to thank your guests for gifts if you didn’t mail them thank you cards?

View Quoted Comment People just want you to know that though someone has this good idea often, and you may see it, most people think it terribly rude, and would talk badly about you for years, if you did it. Doesn't look so evil, but is the opposite of polite.

View Quoted Comment Why would cards or letters you send in the mail get thrown away? ( The venue staff did you a favor. People who saw your generic thank you at their place would have thought, how awful. If you had written proper thank you notes when you got home, things would have been great. So what's did you do to thank each person for their gift, call each of them personally?

No one called you rude. You posted on a public internet forum asking for opinions on whether a particular action would be rude. Most people gave you sincere feedback, citing that the particular action would be rude. It wasn't a personal attack.

View Quoted Comment No My DOC Did Not Do Me A Favor By Not Doing What I Asked. Its Not Rude At All. But Then Again Im Not What You’d Call “Traditional” And Neither Were Our Guests.


The Point Was For Appearance.
Those Who Sent Or Brought Gifts Or Cards Received A Thank You Personally.

View Quoted Comment We Thanked Them Personally In Person, Via Phone Or Email.

I don't think you are rude, it seems like you are trying to save a step - I get that. There is a lot to a wedding, but I would gently offer that a stamped thank you note never goes out of favor. You can still thank people at the wedding, but a personalized thank you note is still, to me, mandatory. Beast wishes!