I recently saw an idea, but I need some feed back. I saw someone posted a pic of thank you notes they put at each place setting at the table. How would you feel about this idea? I'm thinking it's a way to thank for attending and any gift. It's a way to make sure all in attendance gets a thank you card. Thanks for any feed back.
I think it's fine to thank people for attending, but you should still send personalized, hand written, thank you notes for gifts. You have no idea who will bring gifts or what they will bring and giving everyone the same generic thank you is rude.
Thanking them for attending with a message on the table is fine! We're thinking of having a short and sweet message printed on the back of our table numbers. Nothing wrong with adding that extra touch if you're wanting that! Def. send individual thank you cards to your guests though after the wedding. Personalize them per guest depending on what they gave you and such!
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Thanks. I really appreciate your response. I questioned a generic thank you for gifts. Seemed impersonal but I honestly wasn't sure if that's what people just do. We are thinking of including the thank you on our menus at the bottom. Thanks again.
This is pretty rude. Thank you notes should be personalized, addressing the guest by name and thanking them for the specific gift they gave you. People spend a lot of time and money to go to weddings and should be thanked properly
No problem. I think this is fine to do as long as it's in addition to (not instead of) sending personalized thank you notes in the mail for individual gifts. If you're having favors, the notes can even be attached to the favors with a cute ribbon or something
First, You do not thank your guests for attending, as in thank you note. That is backwards etiquette, a common error, always. Any major dinner or party, including weddings ( but not funerals.)....... Guests thank hosts for inviting them to their wonderful party, or sleepover whatever . However, In weddings where the guest has sent or will send a major gift, we assume, guests who give gifts are excused from writing a note, since the gift and message there count as though you walked in with a hostess gift and card, Thank you for inviting me. Guests who do not give a gift, still should write a thank you to the hosts, specific, with details ( not preprinted Thanks!) After a wedding last month, our friend actually did get 3 thank you notes from guests with back ordered gifts, or unfinished project. Maybe with 32 guest households, they figured B and G would notice, no gift and no thank you. But I and everyone else, were amazed, people with manners! 🙂Thank you notes, hand written to show it was personally and thoughtfully are written only for gifts, or major services. Someone planned and gave you a shower, picked up 4 different families at the airport in 2 days, baked 200 desserts. Not every little thing, but major services. ... The note has greeting chit chat, names the gift, says how it will be used , or how wonderful. .... Putting a Thank you not for coming, is wrong. Thanking someone this way for a previous gift, is mass produced and not thoughtful at all. And last, there is no detail that says they know what you gave them and how wonderful that particular choice is. ...At Showers, or Weddings, a very efficient system of thanking everyone for everything, is BAD, shockingly showing you are ungrateful 😮 in terms of standard etiquette. Every few years this comes round. When all of your Thank you notes for gifts and ( unpaid) services are done, it; s good to get in the habit of writing others ( snail or email) and you certainly may say, I was so happy to see you at the wedding. When you see them in person, you say it is nice to see you, not "Thank you" like they did a big thing to come to the party/ wedding you worked hard on, providing a nice place, company, food, drink, entertainment. Thank you for coming to eat my dinner and drink my booze? No. Guests thank hosts for this.