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Danielle K
VIP June 2019

Thank You Note Etiquette

Danielle K, on May 29, 2019 at 12:22 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 7
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FH's boss told him and I months ago that she planned to get us a serving set (multiple bowl, platters, and utensils) and because she was unable to attend the bridal shower, she went ahead and sent a piece of the set home with FH and said she was bringing the rest to the wedding.

My question is do I go ahead and send her a thank you card now or wait till after the wedding when we receive the other pieces or both?

I know part of why you send right away is so that they know you received it but she already know we did since she gave it to him in person. Also I am worried I won't be able to come up with two totally different thank you notes for her.


Oh and also I have 4 aunts that gifted together a few items but did not attend the shower. Should I write them one thank you note together or 4 separate notes. (They all live very close together and are together all of the time if that helps)


  • Danielle
    Master June 2019
    Danielle ·
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    I think with your wedding being so close, it'd probably be okay to wait.

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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
    MrsD ·
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    Since your wedding is so soon, I'd just make a note so you remember & send it after.

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  • Cristy
    Master May 2021
    Cristy ·
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    Agree with PP about boss's thank you note. For the aunts, I would send each one a separate thank you! Even though they went in together, they are separate people, and I think it's more special if they each receive their own thank you.

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  • Kelly
    VIP October 2020
    Kelly ·
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    I agree with this
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  • Melle
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I would give all of your aunts a thank you note each.

    i would wait til your wedding is over for the thank you note for your boss.

    you just reminded me that i will be having a ton of thank you cards to write ahah.

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  • M
    Dedicated August 2019
    Madison ·
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    If your wedding was further away I would send one before and after, but since it's so close just send one after.

    As for your aunts, do four separate ones.

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  • Pattie
    Expert June 2020
    Pattie ·
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    I think you should send two different sets of thank yous because they are different events.

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