Thank you etiquette for rude wedding party member

If you gave her a thank you note or showed appreciation for her standing with you in any way, it doesnt seem she should get any additional thank yous. She seems to be 100% against you at this point and that behavior shouldnt be rewarded. That said, "Thank you for standing up with me (and mention of additional gift if she gave one)" is all that she should get if you really feel that you have to send something.

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I kind of love this idea...

But if you don't want to do that, just thank her for the gift and leave it at that!

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I agree! Either just send the gift back to make a statement or send a thank you for ___ gift with the photo and leave it at that.

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Was it her table? Did you warn the guests at that table ahead of time that their table would be removed? Did you give them somewhere else to sit?

There were 2 tables removed. Out of 20 people she was the only one to flip out at the bride. There were plenty of seats as people were dancing and some had to leave early. Telling or not telling her about a table was no excuse for her swearing at me at my wedding or harassing me on my honeymoon. She cited my total disregard for her health (respiratory issues) but was outside smoking at least 10 times if not more while she was still there. Sorry...no sympathy and no regrets. I loved our venue. It was awesome!

The general consensus is exactly what I thought to do. Send a generic thank you for the gift she gave us and the individual pic of she and her husband. That's the correct thing to do. Aside from that incident our day and honeymoon were absolutely perfect.

Thank you all for your input!

Just a simple thank you for attending it all you need.