Thank you etiquette for rude wedding party member

If she was rude to you and has continued to be rude to you to the point where you felt the need to block her, I wouldn't send her a card at all. If you REALLY feel obligated, I would just say "thank you for attending our wedding" lol

If you've blocked someone then the friendship is essentially over, I would think. Blocking is pretty extreme... so things must have gotten pretty bad. (considering people keep mere acquaintances online). I wouldn't bother sending anything. However, if there's a chance you are overreacting a bit and plan to salvage the friendship in the end, then yes just send something generic.

View Quoted Comment I agree. Strange situation. But I would just send a generic card with the picture inside. Her behavior doesn’t have to stop you from being bigger sending a thank you.

If she didn't get you a gift, I would not send a thank you. If she did, send a thank you for the gift and leave it at that.

I also agree I don't think I'd send a thank you gift unless you wanted to reopen the friendship. Otherwise it sends mixed signals

Omg!

I’m so glad that I’m not the only one with Bridesmaid problems. I decided to block one as well.

She VOLUNTEERED herself to be in the Wedding. Then proceeded to do absolutely nothing to help except pick up the 🤵’s 🎂 and left the Reception early because she “had plans”. She never expressed that to me. I had NOT heard from her since the day of the Wedding.

So, I cut my losses.

I will NOT be sending her any type of Thank you. She already received a Tote Bag filled with useful items (and my love) that I want back!

I didn’t receive a 🎁 from her either.

Oh, she had to be drafted to pick up the 🤵’s 🎂.

She also wore a HORRIBLE Wig and an ill-fitting 👗. We had discussed being covered up top and she was popping out on one side.

View Quoted Comment I dont think I'm overreacting. she got right in my face at wedding and swore at me then stormed out. Over a table being removed to make room for dancing. After things she wrote to me there will be no salvaging at all...she burned that bridge... But she did give a gift and I think the right thing to do is send thank you.

View Quoted Comment Exactly what I thought. Thx!

Did she give a gift? If so, thank her for it. If not, I’m not sure what you’re sending her a card for.

Yeah. Agree with the masses— If she gave a gift, I’d just thank her for that, and leave it be. Simple and sincere but not mention anything else. Thanks for the __, we’re really enjoying using it. Here’s a picture I thought was nice. Signed, sent.
(if there hadn’t been a gift, I wouldn’t bother sending a note)

Omg that’s horrible! Sounds like you’re better off. Send her a generic thank you, and just move on. Sorry to hear this happened to you! I wouldn’t send her the photo either. Forget that.

Just thank her for the gift and leave it at that. Walk away from the friendship as the bigger person and with your head held high. You don’t need to validate why you want to thank her. I get it though.

Only send if she sent you a gift. Otherwise sending her a card after her tirade and you needing to block her could 1) send mixed messages, 2) or may come off as sarcastic which could invite more drama from her.

Dear (Name)

Thank you so much for being my bridesmaid! Having you stand beside me at one of the most important events of my life really means a lot. Thank you for the wonderful memories I'm sure we will laugh about for years to come.

With love,

Me

Return the gift, with a note saying that you clearly are no longer friends, and prefer no reminders of her in your future life.

Wow, that’s weird. Send a card otherwise it will just be another thing for her to get upset about. After you send the card I’d cut ties 😬

I am not giving extra thank yous to the bridal party besides those who got me a gift. So 3 out of the 4 bridesmaids/moh. I already gave them a thank you gift the day of the wedding. I find it really rude of my one bridesmaid to not even bring a card since she gave me trouble about costs of things the entire wedding (mind you I am a thrifty person). She was even haggling the day of with the makeup artist. I just can't with her sometimes. If your bridesmaid gave you a gift, send a thank you about it and that's it.

I'm petty - so i wouldn't send her anything at all. If you feel obligated to send one i would just write "thanks for coming". lol