Thank you card etiquette - help

Send out thank you cards to all gift givers asap

I would send separate thank you notes for the wedding and shower even though that means some people get multiple notes.

Yes, you should send separate thank you cards. One is to thank them for their time and gift for the bridal shower. Then, the other is to thank them for the gift at the wedding.

You should absolutely send thank you cards for any gifts that you receive. Whether you receive them at the shower, at the wedding, or sometime in between.

Yes, you need to send a separate thank you card for the shower gifts and this should be done within a week of the shower. There is no such thing as being too appreciative. People like to be thanked.

They are taking the trouble to select a gift, twice. And to show up, twice. Yes it is proper to promptly send separate thank you cards for each gift, showing proper appreciation for each gift. Which means $1 for paper, envelope and stamp for a Thank You notecard, and five minutes to write 4 sentences. Minor time and expense on your part, next to their time and expense . You may find yourself writing a third one, for anyone who helps host a shower or bach. Or a fourth one, for someone who does a major service. My MOH volunteered to pick up 4 families, and 3 couples or singles, from Airports 2-4 hours away, Boston and Montreal. One card for all those trips, and a small gift. Another grew all our flowers and plants from bulbs or seed, took months, as an additional gift of service. Those major things each merit a separate Thank you. We went through over 350 thank you notes. Happily, as an engagement gift, an older relative started me off with boxes of 200, and 200 stamps. And at one shower ( the first) a couple more boxes of them. It is not such a chore if you do them as soon as gifts are received. And both of you write them. People can be very generous. It makes the notes easy, once you get the format down.

Yes send out notes for the shower and then the wedding.

Yes, send shower TY's ASAP and then another for wedding gifts!

You send thank you cards for any gifts received. So yes, you need to write thank you cards now for the gifts received at your shower. And after your wedding you write thank you cards for any gifts received for your wedding, even if that means you write a second thank you note to a person/couple.

Send them separate and be on top of it! I waited until just before the wedding to send my shower ones out and that was honestly the dumbest thing of me. Not only was it rude to make people wait for a thank you(mostly the older family members I feel guilty about) but it caused me unnecessary stress because thank yous take time and I had no time that close to the wedding. Don’t make my mistake lol

I would send it to both

The timeline gap for sending a bridal shower thank you is also shorter than the timeline for that of a wedding thank you card. You don't need to send a thank you card immediately after the wedding. I think the timeline is within 3 months!

Yes, you should send both because you may get different gifts from different people, or a second gift from someone who already gave you a shower gift. It's important to thank them for attending your shower in addition to getting you a gift separate of the wedding.

I agree with PPs that thank you cards for shower gifts should be sent ASAP. It doesn't hurt to send two in close succession

Yes, you should send all the people who gave you gifts at the shower thank you notes ASAP. I sent my shower ones out the week after the shower, and the wedding ones the month after.