Thank you card dilemma

I would go ahead and send the thank you cards-people appreciate a timely thank you. You can use your pictures for Christmas cards later in the year! Or reach out to your photographer and see if he/she can send you two or three edited pictures of just the two of you so you can use it for thank you cards!

I would go ahead and send the thank yous. I like the PP’s ideas or you can just use an engagement picture or other picture of the two of you in the thank you

I think it's customary to wait until you get pictures back before you send out the thank you cards so people wouldn't be upset if they didn't get one for a few weeks. At least I wouldn't be.

For weddings I’ve gone to, it’s taken a couple months to get the thank you card. I don’t find it rude, I think every couple wants to send one with a photo from the wedding, and most people know that.

I think it's ok to wait a few weeks. Will your photographer get you any sneak peeks? We get about 20 within a week and then the full gallery in the 6-8 weeks.

Most people understand that it could take up to a couple months since people like to wait for their wedding photos so I don't think anyone would think of you as rude. We didn't feel like waiting that long so we sent out thank you cards with no picture.

Maybe you can ask your photographer to send you one pic early?

Send thank you's without a photo. A photo is a nice touch, but definitely not necessary. I'd rather not receive a photo than wait 2+ months to find out that the couple received my gift.

All the weddings I have been to, the thank you card has come quite a while after the wedding and I never thought twice about the time frame in which I got a thank you! Could you maybe write the thank you's now and start addressing the envelopes? That way, when your pictures come in all you have left to do is stuff them in the envelopes and send them?

Send them without the photos. We've received photo thank you cards and regular thank you cards for wedding gifts. We read them when they arrive in the mail, and then they get recycled.

If you wait the 8 weeks to get your photos back, then you're also getting close to the 3 month mark that thank you notes should be sent by.

It’s perfectly fine to wait a few weeks to send the thank you notes. Also, your photographer will usually give you a sneak peek of your photos within a week or so. As for the checks, I would cash them. I always hate having outstanding checks from weddings because it makes managing my money a little tougher.

It is much more rude to not cash checks than to send them before the thank you card. If you don’t cash them soon, people will start worrying that you didn’t get them. Cashing them acknowledges receipt, thank yous can come later. Although if you’re waiting up to 8 weeks to even GET a photo, then more time for ordering, THEN writing the card, you could be pushing it. (If they’re written and ready to mail and you’re just waiting to tuck a picture in, that’s an okay timeline). There’s no requirement that you need a photo , and most people would rather a timely photo-less thank you card than waiting several months for a photo. THAT said, the standard etiquette timeline for wedding thank yous is “within 3 months” ...The most important part of a thank you card is the personal note to say thank you.
If you REALLY want pics for your card, it’s not unreasonable to ask your photographer if they can provide you with a couple of “sneak peak” or “preview” options to use for cards if possible— just make sure to be understanding if they are unable to.

I’ve never received a thank you card with a picture on it. I don’t really think people care that much about what the thank you cards look like. You have 3 months from the wedding to send out the thank you cards, but the sooner you get them done, the better because it is honestly something that will weigh on you until you get them sent out.

I would highly suggest you do open your thank you cards and deposit the checks. For people who still use checks, especially those who don't keep a good checkbook balance, waiting over a week or two to cash a check is considered rude as that check/money is technically in limbo for that person's account. If you waited two months (checks are only good for about 90 days anyway) someone could be hit with that money they gifted you coming out at a time when the money isn't in their acount anymore if an emergency might happen to them. We really don't think of that stuff anymore considering not mant people use checks anymore.

So I'd say if you want to send a picture, make Christmas Cards this year with wedding photos or maybe even a second kind of thank you to all your guests. But open, deposit any checks, send your regular thank yous asap.

Open your wedding cards I meant not thank you cards. Lol. I wish we could edit our posts..

I would just send it without the photo so that checks are not sitting out there.

I would either try to get a sneak peak from your photographer to get them out sooner or just go ahead and send without a picture. The Christmas card is a good idea.

Ask your photographer for a few photos and explain what you want to do..... Waiting a few weeks isn't bad, you're enjoying your new marriage after all the stress of planning it.... Take a break.

I personally will be waiting for my photos to send thank you cards, it's a common thing to do in my area though. Cheques I would cash right away because those people probably set that money aside expecting you to take it ASAP.

I have always received thank you cards weeks after the event. I think you will be fine to wait to send the cards until you got the photos back. Maybe ask the photographer if they can send you a few sneak peeks and choose from those. I do agree that you probably shouldn't wait to cash the checks though.