Would you ever tell someone when they WEREN'T a BM? When I chose my BMs, I decided not to ask one girl because while she was part of our "group" of friends, I wasn't as close to her and hadn't known her as long. So I asked the girls that I wanted to be BMs and never said anything to the other girl. I didn't think it was appropriate to go up to someone and tell them that they weren't a BM, unless she said something about it. Fast forward to two months before my wedding, and some people are saying, "What, you never told her? You should've told her!" And apparently she's upset about it too.
I kind of figured me not asking her, would be indication that she wasn't! In the last 6 months I've only seen or talked ot her twice, and I really avoid talking about wedding stuff around her because I don't want her to think she is one or that I expect anything of her.
Am I in the wrong here?
