Telling groom how to look on wedding day- right or wrong?

I let my fiance decide on his attire and he used our wedding address for notifications. So of course with COVID stuff happening I opened it and I saw what he picked out! Never in my life would I have imagined! Looks like something straight out of the Royal Weddings! David Beckham type attire. Lets just say this Bride is happy! I love him scruffy too but I'm 100% he's going to be baby face and smooth. Let him be comfortable. He's already going to have some butterflies brewing.

View Quoted Comment This sounds like my fiancé to a t lol jokes “just let me know where and what time” in regards to the wedding. All jokes aside though he’s been very supportive but has always asked for help with his clothes... plus he’s color blind so he quite literally *needs* my help picking colors

Just like a bride who I think should look like you but amped up a notch, your guy should too. If he normally has a clean face that that’s the look. Maybe he shave day before. But you want him to be comfortable too.

The fact that he wants to surprise you with his tux is adorable. I get the facial hair thing (I love a clean face though), but I’d only suggest you’d prefer facial hair like you did and let it be. I don’t think you’d like him telling you how to wear your hair or makeup if it’s different than what you want to do.

I think it's very wrong to tell him how he should look on the day. I absolutely hated when my cousin wife told him what to wear for their wedding. You need to not be so controlling. Remember it's his day as well. I'm sure he has an idea of how he wants to look on the day as well. I'm sure you wouldn't like it if he told you how to dress, what shoes he wants you to wear, how he wants your makeup and hair. Just no step back and let him do his thing. You can make suggestions but that's it.

View Quoted Comment I couldn't agree more. Just because his side didn't pay doesn't mean he doesn't get a say in his wedding. That's a bad way to look at things. I'm sure you wouldn't agree if it was the other way around and his family was paying and not yours. Like I said you can make suggestions but nothing more. At the end of the day it's not just about you it's about you and your future husband. And you don't want to start your marriage off on the wrong foot.