Tell Guest They RSVP'd Too Late

You invited her and her husband, so call her and her husband and ask for their meal choice. At that time you can clarify that their kids aren't coming.

You can't take back an invitation once it is given. I had guests RSVP after my due date too, and I even had to add a guest when one of them received a foreign exchange student without warning us. Since you still have a week to submit to the caterer, by all means go ahead and add this already invited guest.

It's rude of them to be late with the RSVP but you can't take back your invitation!

You need to count them.

I would just suck it up, but you are right to be annoyed.

Super rude of them to do that to you, but my advice, suck it up and make it work for them to come.

Super annoying, and very rude of them...but like everyone else is saying, you can't take back an invite.

If your RSVP deadline was the 15th in order for you to do your final headcount today why would you have to add another table to accommodate your distant relative? Do you mean if you allow the children to come you'll have to add another table? You don't have to allow anyone who was not on the invite to come, but you should allow the people you invited to come to your wedding and it shouldn't cost you any extra if you planned accordingly. You just need to call and ask for their entrée selections.

It's very rude of them. But since you haven't submitted your final head count it would probably b best to do what u can to accommodate them.

You can't take back the invite to the couple but if the kids weren't invited maybe you can call and say something like "which meal do you and joe (husband) want?" If she still doesn't get the hint and adds her kids in the conversation, maybe you can say something along the lines of it being an adult reception?

I agree with the others that it sucks, and it was rude of them, but you should accommodate them. If the kids weren't on the invite, I'd call them and ask for their meal selections and remind them there are no kids due to space constraints, as stated on the invitations.

After your deadline had already passed, you told them that you needed to know by today. And they let you know by today. So, if you weren't going to accept their RSVP today, then you shouldn't have told them they had until today :-/ Sorry! Hopefully their company is worth it!

You invited them and told them you needed the answer today and you received. So no, you can't tell them they are too late. Accomodate them. Call for the meal selections.

You invited them, she responded late but by the date you asked her to respond. So yes, she is your guest, you must accommodate her - you can't rescind the invite now.

Also, change your avatar to something other than the rings! The rings are associated with spam/trolls.

I understand how you feel, there is a special place in hell for guests that fuck up the RSVPing thing... ok maybe a little dramatic on that one. Regardless, it is uber frustrating, I get it. You've got the seating chart done, everything's in place and you move on then whomp add another table OMG it feels like the end of the world, it's not, you just have a lot on your plate. Since you haven't submitted it to your caterer, you should add them to your count. It's an uncomfortable convo but make it a point to contact your guest and inform them that the wedding is adults only (or however you phrased it) and that you are excited to have them join you on your special day and hope that doesn't change their attendance. You are going to have such an awesome day in a couple of weeks, and honestly the guests really do mean alot on the day of, their presence will give you a huge sense of gratitude. Even though they have a special seat in hell for RSVPing like an ass. lol

If you hadn't reached out to them and said by Dec 30, I would say no, they didn't respect the original deadline, But you gave them until Dec 30, so I would accept the 2. And email, text, call, however you know they will get it, and say "Thanks for your RSVP! We have TWO seats Reserved for you and Bob!"

Why was your RSVP deadline more than a month before your wedding ?

1) that was too early of a deadline

And 2) Yes it would be VERY RUDE to tell her it was "too late". How would you like it if someone did that to you ?

Yes, you can decline their kids coming since you didn't address the invite to the kids.

Edit: the RSVP "deadline" is just a courtesy, yes it's rude of Bob and Sally to RSVP days before your wedding , but you should still accommodate them. They're your invited guests, it's rude to take away an invite. You'll always have no shows anyway.

There's always the chance that if the kids aren't allowed to attend, she'll change her mind and say no.

Thanks everyone! I found out our tables fit 12 not 10 so now that I know I don't have to add another centerpiece and redo my seating chart I'm much more okay with it.

Happy New Year!

Just curious, why was your RSVP deadline a month before the final count was due? That sounds excessive. Anyway, glad you worked it out.