Tattoos on Bridesmaids

My sister is the only person in my possible BP that has tattoos (sleeves) and ya know what? That doesn't change my opinion on her at all so why would I exclude her? It's who she is

I am NOT a tattoo person. I appreciate the art behind them (I actually like the tattoo reality shows, oddly enough), but they are very much not my thing, and to be honest I don't really like seeing them. With that said, one of my closest friends has some very visible tattoos. I love her and they are a part of who she is. It never crossed my mind to not have her in my wedding party, tattoos and all, and I'm pretty sure when the photos come back, I'm not going to be noticing the ink on her arms, because I'll be looking at the (hopefully) happy faces of my closest friends and family.

I have the same situation. My fiancé's sister has the tattoos but he's actually the one that brought up having them covered by sleeves. He asked her to have sleeves to keep it modest and she wasn't offended at all. We're looking at that tattoo cover up as well as adding lace sleeves onto the girls dresses to keep them consistent it's your day, if the tattoos aren't your thing then they're not your thing and that's okay!

Hey OP, thank you for hearing the community and responding in such a mature manner!

I actually told my MOH her dress had to be knee length to specifically show off her leg tattoos! Tattoos don't define the personality of a person, but they are carefully chosen pieces of art that deserve to be displayed, even just a little bit.

I'm glad you're waiting to ask your BP and that you won't let your FSIL's ink make your decision for you. :-)

I got a tattoo on my foot 2 weeks before a wedding I was in. When I showed up to the rehearsal dinner, the bride was very angry when she saw it. She didn't yell at me, but she also didn't hide her annoyance in front of all of these guests that I didn't know. I was so embarrassed and made to feel like I did something wrong, which I did not. It was a side to her that I had never seen before, and I couldn't believe her entitled attitude. We pretty much don't speak anymore, and while the tattoo reaction is not the sole reason, it was one of a few things that she did during her wedding that just kind of made me look at her in a different way. It was easy to let go of that friendship after that.

Please don't worry about the tattoos. Your day will still be perfect regardless!

No judgement here. Ultimately it is your day. If I were in this situation, I would ask her. She would be my future sister-in-law and I would want to immediately include her no matter what she looks like. In my case, my fiancé's sister is also my BM and she happens to be much older and is wearing a more... um... "matronly" dress which makes her stand out. But that's okay. I want her to feel included and comfortable.

All of my BM's and MOH have tattoos. Shoot, i have a couple tattoos. If she likes her tattoos and is proud of them then why should it matter? Letting tattoos decide your wedding party just sounds awful to me.

My sister has a lot of tattoos that I'm not a huge fan of. However, I didn't hesitate to ask her to be my MOH because I couldn't imagine getting married without her. Priorities.

Two of my bridesmaids have tattoos that will likely be visible. I honestly forgot they had tattoos until they tried on dresses. One of them offered to cover hers up. I told her absolutely not - I can't imagine asking them to cover up or change part of themselves just for pictures...I also can't imagine my day without them. I don't have tattoos, neither does FH. But I love my girls and I am just grateful and excited that they will be by my side.

Being as I am covered in tattoos and one arm is a full sleeve, this has been done to me and Ill tell you its highly offensive, tattoos are an expression of ones self just as hair, style, piercings, ect. To be treated as there is something wrong with you based on how you look is an extremely rude thing to do, and even the fact that you are having these thoughts is rude. Love people for who they are not what they look like!

If I found out that the only reason I wasn't asked to stand in a wedding for a sister or close friend was my tattoos, I'd be pissed.

I feel terrible saying this but that is one of the reasons I didnt ask one of my friends to be a bridesmaid. I know, i feel really crappy but i dont want to look back at my pics and have one of my bridesmaids look so out of place

She already said she was wrong to consider it... FFS, read the damn comments, people.

My MOH has a lot of tattoos and they won't be covered by a formal dress. I'm 100% okay with it to be honest. It truly does not bother me. But I know to each their own.

My MOH, BM and myself have tattoos. I have a big one on my back that isnt going to be covered up. Plus a few on my arms. My BM has a sleeve of bats on her arm.

If you care about the person then you chose them to be in your party. But dont exclude them because they have tattoos.

ETA: picture of my back tattoo..

My cousin is covered in tatoos and FH didn't even think about them when asking him to be a GM, I'm glad you are not letting it influence you, I know sometimes you get swept up in planning and focus on tiny details that when you take a step back you realize don't mean much.

I would say think of it this way - if she is covered in tattoos, wouldn't it look odd if you looked back and didn't see her tattoos?

Thank you, FlightyFlutist and ZeldaBride <3

No problem, @Chelsea. It kind of amazes me how few people actually read the comments, sometimes.

@Chelsea I'm glad to hear you made that decision. I think it is the right one as well.

Tattoos are beautiful if you don't have a problem with makeup being done because it's beautiful then you shouldn't have an issue with tattoos