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Alex, on February 4, 2021 at 10:53 AM

I am getting married June5th 2021. My fiance and I are very eager to have a baby and are considering trying before the wedding. I am very picky about birthdays since I have a January bday and it sucks!! If we try now, i’ll be out of my first trimester by June and we would have a halloween baby. If we wait till June i’ll have the baby in March (original plan). He thinks May but I have a feeling I would be sick during wedding. Our hesitation for trying now is, me not being able to drink at bachelorette and bridal shower in may. Having to hide that im not drinking! Also, ive asked some friends what they think of pregnant brides and the response was not good. Im curious if anyone has been through this and if they have suggestions and advice! Halloween or spring baby? What do you all think?

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Karla · on February 5, 2021 at 12:50 PM
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Thank you for saying and acknowledging this. I know many women who have had issues with fertility/getting pregnant and I’m sure there are some on this forum. Reading about how many women are scheduling their pregnancies based on when they want their future children’s birth month to be might be a trigger for women who are just hoping/trying to get pregnant regardless of the birth month.
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Alex · on February 5, 2021 at 12:56 PM
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Hello, original post writer here. I apologize if I offended anyone, not my intention. All I was saying is I was looking to start trying then. I am not assuming that things will go perfectly. In fact I am expecting it won’t. I really don’t appreciate being called “cute” or my thoughts being “absurd”. Everyone has their own journey and planning for a child is exciting. Which is why I enjoy thinking about the best case scenario. However I am only hoping for the best and expecting the worst.
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Bethany · on February 5, 2021 at 1:11 PM
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Yes!! I can't believe I had to scroll so far down to see this!
Alex, as a December birthday I can totally relate to having a "crappy" birthday. I hate having a birthday around the holidays. As a kid I was always annoyed that I couldn't have a pool party, and usually we were off school for winter break which you'd think would be great, but what it really meant was I never got the birthday pencil from the teacher or could bring cupcakes for my class. The worst was when family would say "here, this gift is for Christmas and your birthday." Call me materialistic but that still rubs me the wrong way even as an adult. You wouldn't say that if my birthday was in July, would you? So yeah, I GET it.
On the flip side, my mom loves that I have a December birthday. She calls me her "Christmas baby." My FH also has a December birthday (12/26) and his family always made a point to celebrate completely separately from Christmas. There is literally a rule that you cannot wrap his birthday gifts in red or green, it has to be birthday paper.
You can't control when your baby is born. You might get lucky and conceive as soon as you start trying, but there is a small window of time each month where you can get pregnant and it might take time. Are you going to stop trying during months that would align with a baby born in January? Of course not, that would be silly. When your baby is born, you aren't going to care what month it is. I'd recommend you wait to start trying. Enjoy your engagement and all the events leading up to the wedding without having to worry about pregnancy.
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Judith · on February 6, 2021 at 11:31 PM
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This, exactly.
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Shakiyla · on February 8, 2021 at 6:53 AM
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Honestly you really can’t plan it; knowing what I know now I wish I tried before I got married. It’s been a couple of months with no luck. I didn’t expect it to take this long. Some women can get pregnant very easily, some women take a couple of months to a year and others struggle for awhile.
Just do it when your ready mentally and physically.
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