Allow me to set the stage. Me and my girl had been going out for some time, when I popped the question, it took her by surprise. She and her family are traditional in some ways that I didn't know were as important to her as they were, so after the initial wave of joy at my proposal, there was some hurt and anger for me not respecting some family traditions.
We didn't do much wedding planning for several months after getting engaged (Various family dramas). I had been wanting to start planning from day one of being engaged, but she was feeling rushed. So, I hung back and waited.
Now, we are planning. We set a date, got a venue, she got a dress, and it's just under a year away. I feel like we have so much in place that we can chill a little and now I AM the one feeling rushed. And I was forced to wait so long to start planning that my enthusiasm waned a little bit. So I'm trying to recover that too.
I love the idea of wedding planning, really I do. I love looking at photographers, and whatnot. But sometimes it seems like A) if I don't have the exact same enthusiasm as she does, then she thinks I'm not interested or dont care or B) ALL we ever talk about anymore is wedding stuff!
I'm more concerned about the latter. Because once the wedding is over (or at least the bulk of the planning) what will we talk about? Will she be bored with me? Is she more interested in the DAY than spending her life with me?
I don't know how to address this without seeming critical, or accusatory. I also don't want to bruise her excitment (because I know that sucks). I just feel like we need to be more than just this one thing- there is more to our lives than just the wedding right now. Just like in the future there will be more to our lives than our jobs, our pets, or our kids.
Any advice from ladies or gents would be appreciated.
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