Tacky ..?

If you're just wanting to avoid being tacky, just follow etiquette. Basics are don't ask for cash/honeyfund, don't put registry info on invites or make demands about guest attire (unless you're truly having an all-out black tie affair, and there are a LOT of stipulations before you reach that point with an event!), no cash bar, host your guests properly (if you're having it at a mealtime, you MUST feed your guests a full meal!), serve alcohol whether you and your DF drink, even if it's just beer and wine, etc.

Just remember that the ceremony is for the couple, and the reception is the THANK YOU to the guests. It IS your day, but it's their day too, because they're taking the time to be there for you. Show them your gratitude in the way you host them.

I went to a wedding that had two jars with the bride and grooms name on them and a sign. The sign read something along the lines of "Whoever gets the most amount of money, get cake to the face"

Any time the bride and groom as for money, its tacky in my book.

It was BYOB, partially self catered, not enough seats at the ceremony, it was outside and they made no back up plans which made for a miserably hot and humid day. So many people left early because of the weather. Water bottles were sitting in a dirty kiddie pool for people to drink, and the bride changed into short shorts and an old tank top after the ceremony which looked pretty classless. They cut the cake with a bottle of beer and cigarette in hand.

Amvets hall, pot luck, no music/dancing, I was a date but sat at the head table because my partner was the only person in the wedding party who'd ever had a significant other, I ate a tiny ham salad sandwich in a mini torpedo roll and chips for my meal, there was hair in my cake.

I went to a wedding where the 1st thing we saw at the entrance was a box labeled "honeymoon funds " and another for "cards " so they were expecting money twice and to top it off the DJ announced he would be playing a song and advice guess to get their money out line up and pay to dance with bride and groom!!!!

Thank you for sharing some of your stories. Oh my ! ! !

It was in a banquet hall, but the food was hot dogs in a crock pot. Cash bar, and the cupcakes were made by the bride the night before and they had sage green colored frosting. The wedding dress was made by the MOB, but she didn't finish it in time, so it was safety pinned on. Oh, and it turned out there was no actual ceremony, they had gotten married the week before at the courthouse, but the super fancy invitation I received was for a ceremony and reception.

Tacky is in the eye of the beholder. I've seen cakes and bouquets that I'm sure were considered wonderful and elegant to some and I'm certain very expensive. When I saw them I thought the colors &designs were tacky and nothing I would have ever wanted.

As for my personal opinion of I guess you would say tacky was one wedding where there was around 75-100 people, but there was cake that would maybe feed about 50 by wedding cake piece standard and I think maybe 3 bowls of beans, some sort of salad and chips.

The type of food wasn't so much the problem, but that there was no way it was going to give all those people even a taste. Not sure how that all came about.

The reception obviously had it's issues, but I still smile when I think of the wedding ceremony. The couple was obviously so in love, the music was so pretty and the bride so beautiful.

Another wedding was from a wedding at the family church. Wedding was nice, but when we went to the basement of the church there was no decorations at all. By no decorations, I mean no table covers at all, no candles on the table, nothing at all. My youth group had it fixed up nicer when we'd had fundraiser spaghetti dinners and it didn't involve a great deal off effort.

How the couple wanted to do their wedding was their own decision, but the wedding just looked like no one had really put forth much effort to make anything pretty.

I was also about 16 years old and much of the youth group had a bit of a attitude about that wedding since the bride was the youth director. We were supposed to be discussing certain topics and do planned activities. Instead we spent 8 months listening to her talk about wedding ideas and plans and nothing else.

Pet peeves of mine...

When the registries are at nicer stores like Macy's and for expensive items and the wedding is clearly a low budget affair. (not a simple, intimate wedding, but a large, low budget wedding)

When people ask for money instead of a gift. I get that you are fresh out of college, and need help paying rent, but I'm in the same position, and don't really want to help you pay your water bill as a wedding gift.

When the bridal party has 'upgraded' drinks or food. I hate that.

Poorly thought out registries, e.g. people registering for multiple versions of the same thing. I just assume they want to return them for the money.

Tacky/profanity laced music. (rap, Justin Bieber, Nicki Minaj) I love me some pop, but not at a wedding.

Omg @junebride I'm a total bieliber and I plan to have at least one song at my wedding!

I gotta agree on the registry at really high end stores for ridiculous stuff. I went to a wedding once and the couple was registered at Bloomingdales and some of the items were outrageous. $230 for a bowl?!

I do like the money dance if it's not gift grabby. I've seen it done tastefully and other times it was clear the bride was all about the extra money. Soooo tacky.

Omg crystal, don't even get me started on some of the stuff I've seen on registries. Maybe it's not my place to judge, but I'd be embarrassed to put ridiculously overpriced things on my registry, especially if I was having a cheaper wedding.

My youngest cousin's wedding. In a legion hall that was partially under construction- maybe not their fault. It was potluck- I actually didnt know that was even a thing until my dad told me. I also didnt get an invite now that I think about it. The bride wore a prom dress and chewed gum during the ceremony. About 40% of the guests were in jean shorts. Until my dad really pushed the wedding was going to bw dry because they were only 18. So they had a couple of bottles of wine... We brought tequila and drank it in the car.

I had to pay for my dinner.

I actually went to two tacky weddings, the first one was for my cousin who did a potluck style, well all the food ran out before anyone could even think about second. The second one happened over the summer another cousin of mine tossed together a wedding in the last month so we all day inside a super dark lit room and there wasn't enough tables for everyone so the venue had to bring out folding chairs!

Playing devils advocate for the expensing stuff on registries- some places give a discount for whatever is left over on your registry. Maybe the couple is hoping to buy it themselves after the wedding?

Don't have your wedding in Hialeah.

Yes. I'm salty.

It hasn't happened yet, but a friend of mine who insisted on a $2000 dress and TWO engagement rings, decided she didn't have enough money to feed her guests. BYOB and she has her friends catering (potluck style) the food. Every detail that doesn't concern her directly is thr cheapest thing she can find. The reception is in a park with an ipod. No dance floor or tents. It's going to be a trainwreck. Oh, and the bride to be has mocked people who have given her gifts thus far because she only wants money for her honeyfund. The honeymoon she plans on leaving her fiancé behind on, however, since he doesn't like to travel and she deserves a vacation.

I didn't attend, but my mom is constantly talking about a wedding she went to -- no alcohol (the bride and groom weren't drinkers) No +1's (because of cost) however the MOB had no problem telling everyone about the $10,000 band she booked (who was terrible) and a gaggle of children screaming and playing wii in the corner.

@mrs2015. Lmao omg. Never ever ever. Lol !!!! I can't standddddd dade county ahhh

@jacqui76. Stop it. No way ! That's pretty bad !!