Tacky wedding fears

I personally have never gone to a wedding and said, "Uh. That's tacky." I'm not ungrateful for being there.

I'm not having a signature drink or wine. I'm not having uplighting or drapes, we're having a barbecue buffet, and I'm not using real flowers.

My reception is at a beach house venue. It's small, quaint, and perfect.

Depending on when you're getting married, I'll post pictures in March. :-)

Remember, everyone will have different opinions. You can't please everyone. As long as you're happy with how things turned out and no one goes to the ER, it'll be fine.

Don't worry, no ER trips for anyone!

I'm just annoyed that whenever someone mentions "fire hall" or "KOC" or "Elks Lodge", people turn into snobs about it. I've already seen this with my relatives. I tried asking this on TheKnot and instantly people were very judgmental about my location.

We could've booked it in a nice country club but that would mean either we go into debt or not have everything we wanted for our wedding. By taking the simpler route, we got the DJ and photographer that we wanted, enough money to decorate it with flowers, and truly make it our own. This is our thank you for our guests, not to turn this into an episode of "Four Weddings".

Mine is at a reception hall on a beach and I've been to several in lodges/halls, etc. It's crazy how you're getting future guests and strangers making mean comments. You're graciously allowing them to partake in your celebration - and it's free for them!

Could I afford a more expensive place? Sure. But I want a house. And I also don't want to go into debt over ONE NIGHT (I don't care how special the night is, it's still only one night).

Ignore those who are looking down at you - and definitely ignore those meanies from the Knot. People do what they can.

I am sorry that people have to act that way. I am with Erica here and am always just happy to be included at a wedding. It's about the marriage and the bride and groom. As long as you are comfortable with what you are doing, you should be happy (I wouldn't let "haters" get under your skin). Good luck!

I've been to a few "fire hall" type weddings that were lovely. I'm also a big fan of simple. Food, music, drinks, and flowers.

I honestly wouldn't worry about what others think. It sounds like you & your FH have put a lot of time & thought into the details to ensure your guests have a wonderful time. And afterall, your family & friends should be overjoyed that they're celebrating with the two of you on the happiest day of your lives. Good luck.

I once read a quote in a magazine - a guest said something like, "I would rather not go to an elegant wedding because those are nice, but not typically fun."

Mine is not elegant at all. But it will be damn fun.

I would try not to think about what others opinions will be, you are having a wedding and they should be happy to be invited! Who cares where it is or how you organize it, the day is about celebrating your marriage.

Not everyone can afford a country club wedding, but that doesn't mean one is better than the other! I feel like its better to have a wedding you can afford than to go into debt over one and start your marriage off that way. People who love you and care about you will be excited to be there no matter where it is, how you serve food, or how you decorate.

Are there any pics of it decorated for other events? If so, you can show the pics to anyone who asks.

If anyone turns up his/her nose at the idea, say, "I guess you wouldn't appreciate an invitation, so I'll save a stamp."

When I'm on my laptop, I can gather a picture. However, it seems like they haven't update the website. However, my mom, FMIL, and I have visions on how to transform the room.

How many times do people on here say "throw the wedding you can afford"? I think your wedding sounds amazing! My wedding will also be held in a banquet hall. I kind of cringe whenever I see brides say something like "I HATE banquet hall food" or "I don't want my wedding to be just another banquet hall wedding."

My wedding won't be super fancy. We'll probably pass on the uplighting to save more money. But it WILL have lots of food, lots of music, lots of alcohol, and lots of family and friends. And that sounds like a perfect wedding to me Enjoy your day!

As long as the music's good and the food is delish, the rest doesn't matter to your guests in the end

Per request, this is what it looks like. Note that the first pic must've been taken a couple of years ago because there had been changes to the place since. The second one is taken at a recent banquet (not wedding reception).

Your wedding plans sound great to me. As far as I am concerned, it is not the room that is important, it's what takes place in it. If a bride and groom are surrounded by the people they love, the wedding will be a success. It sounds as though you have put a lot of thought and effort into your preparations, so I am sure it will turn out beautifully. Your pictures show a nice, big room with space for mingling and space for dancing. Fill it with people who are special to you and your FH and it will become the perfect setting.

Your venue looks really nice. I never would've thought it was a rec hall. Don't worry about what others may or may not say. If you love then that's all that matters.

And here's our decor inspiration:

And more to give you an idea:

Bee, that looks beautiful. I love those colors together.

One of the cutest weddings I ever went to was at a fire hall that actually was way better than one of the banquet hall weddings. I decorated for weddings for years (my mom is a florist) and some of the "tacky" weddings I've seen have been in over the top banquet halls. Let's just say I've seen a few bizarre ice sculptures in a likeness of the bride and groom posing like angels...trust me, your wedding sounds great! My wedding is in a museum and we're most likely doing family style too!

Donna, our colors are blue, ivory, and yellow. Still debating what shade of blue: cobalt or navy.

The good thing is our moms are helping us on the decor. My mom is helping creating drapes for the stage and back, while his mom is helping me with the centerpieces and sweetheart table. I've already started some DIY projects (table numbers and seating chart chalkboard). I hope everything comes together in the end so no one would think they're at a fire hall.