Tacky to ask for donations?

Wow.....NO.....please don't do anything even remotely like this...yes, it's incredibly tacky...I don't even know what else to say about it....sorry...

Sorry to say so, but I do think its tacky. Personally, FH and I aren't doing anything that we can't afford. And if you want some money back, perhaps you can ask your mom to spread out the word to guests when they ask about your registry?

I wasn't really saying it would be to pay for some of the wedding or anything. It would be for our honeymoon, and I guess whats the difference between this and a dollar dance? Isn't that asking for a donations as well???

Well personally I find dollar dances incredibly tacky as well and I've never seen one actually done at a wedding. But the big difference is that in the dollar dance or through registries you are letting people give you a GIFT but charging them to drink at your wedding is forcing them to contribute. If you are looking for honeymoon gifts and not money to pay for your wedding you could set up a honeymoon registry online like at www.thehoneymoon.com or www.ourwishingwell.com and then when people ask where you're registered you can give them that info or spread word of it through a website

Like the other responders, I find the tip jar very tacky. If you can't afford an open bar, consider just beer and wine or even just soda. You want your wedding something to remember and you want your guests to enjoy themselves. There's nothing worse than to ask for money and offend people. My reception will not have a dollar dance or anything of that kind. If you are looking for money for your honeymoon, consider a registry (as someone above stated) or postpone your honeymoon until you can afford it.

Is it tacky to ask for donations......uh yeah super tacky & a donation container even more tacky. You'd be better off putting BYOB on your invitations LOL

If you were to do something like this, have a Cash Bar, and let the bartenders inform your guests how much drinks are and let someone like your parents and his parents relay the message it's a cash bar so your guests know they're paying for drinks, but it is incredibly tacky to ask for donations. The only way I see Donations are acceptable is if you're donating money in lieu of a favor or if you have everything and wish to not receive tangible gifts and if a guest wants to give you a GIFT inform them that a Donation to their favorite Charity or a Charity that has a lot of meaning to you and your FH would be greatly appreciated as a GIFT, not asking money back for Wedding Expenses. If you're looking to do a Honeymoon Registry here's another site that offers Registries http://www.pb.rovia.com (it's under the Wedding and Honeymoon link from the main page). I've never seen a Dollar Dance at a Wedding.

I would say it is tacky and in poor taste. But there are a number of customary ways to do the same thing. For example, the dollar dance. I'm sure there are others but it is too early in the morning to think much.

I personally would never invite people to an event I am putting on, provide the alcohol and call it an "open bar" and then ask for donations. Yes I personally think this is tacky... your not supposed to MAKE money off your wedding from the bar... if you would like to get a little money back either hope for really good cash gifts or dont spend as much... I think guests would be more insulted to see a donations jar at the bar rather than to just to away with it all together... I am personally doing the "Money Dance" at my wedding but NOT for the money (although yes, traditionally the money dance is a way for the bride and groom to make a few extra dollars for their honeymoon)... I am doing it so I get a chance to dance or get some personal time with guests I may have not gotten the chance to have a few minutes with individually any other way during the evening... if they choose to give a dollar or two thats fine but we are also not advertising that we expect the donation...

If you don't need the traditional wedding gifts, you can setup a registry. We have a honeymoon registry. When you send out your invitation, you let everyone know you have a registry and they can give you a gift on the registry. I am sure there are other wedding registries setup the same way. In reality, they contribute to that gift (or portion of a gift) and it is up to you to purchase whatever that items is, because you get the cash (debit card or check). Just make sure when you setup a registry that you define who pays the fees. The fees should be less than your local sales tax or shipping charges for your out of town relatives/friends, so I would set it up where they pay the fees.

Wow. I think that you have been bombarded with the general consensus that the tip jar is a less than favorable idea. There is a website called www.rainfallofenvelopes.com. You and your future hubby can register on there and post a nice photo and a story of what a monetary gift would be for such as a honeymoon or a downpayment towards a new home. You will probably end up getting monetary gifts anyway. Good luck

I am doing in a way kind of the same thing. We dont own a house yet and the best gift we could get is help with the money down on our new home. We have a very natural theme for our wedding so we are doing a very small registry (because honestly, where will be put anything without a house) and creating bird houses with signs saying "help feather our nest". The houses will have coins and corners of bills sticking out from the seams. We have also starting spreading the news that we really want a home and that we are only having a limited registry. Hope this helps and isnt too tacky as well.

Do not have a donation container by the bar. It would be better to simply establish a Honeymoon Registry (if you type that into Google you'll be able to find a dozen different websites that offer various versions of Honeymoon Registries). If your mom or bridesmaids are throwing you a bridal shower then they can refer guests to your honeymoon registry website and you can receive gifts (such as a fancy dinner or hotel stay or snorkeling lessons etc.). That way you get what you want and you can afford to have a nicer honeymoon and you avoid getting the terrible candlesticks or lingerie that you would never wear.

Hope that helps!

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I wouldnt do this simply because each drink does not cost $2 and its possible you would turn a profit. not a good thing. yes i agree, just put this in your registry. I have "wedding fund" in my registry if people want to donate to help pay for the wedding, maybe people think thats tacky but i dont care, i dont need gifts, i need cash.