Sweetheart Table or Head Table

@Terri, splitting up couples is rude and selfish.

@Ashley - in your opinon... so that means it's not a good fit for you. It doesn't mean it's rude.

My FH and I are setting ours up to where spouses of those in the bridal party can sit with us at the same table, luckily most of our bridal party consists of married couples.

Sweetheart table, we don't want to separate the bridal party from their SO's and family.

So having my FH sit at a table with complete strangers (none of whom would talk to him because everyone else new each other, im speaking from a personal experience) and having me at table with complete strangers like I am a prop isnt rude to you?

I've never been to a wedding where the couple did a head table and split up their bridal party from their dates. Every single one had SOs at the head table with them. So to me a head table is completely normal.

@Ashley you're not being sat at a separate table as a "prop". It is the couple's personal preference to have a head table or a sweetheart table - that doesn't make it rude. It just makes it something that is not to your liking. Just like you would prefer to be cozied up with your FH there are some people that look forward to mingling and getting to know other people while their spouse is sitting with the BP at the head table.

A head table is common in the Midwest. We did a sweetheart and added my daughter to it also (she's 12).

@Terri, in this situation I was a prop. The bride and groom sat behind us at an elevated table and we sat in front like their "court," that was literally the word the bride used to describe the set up. She said she wanted the visual aesthetic of a royal court. By her own words the purpose of the head table was to be visually appealing. It wasnt because they wanted to sit with us.

We're doing a sweetheart table. We just figure the BP would rather sit with their dates/SO and children. Plus we like the idea of it being just us at the table.

The last wedding my FH was in the bride and groom had a sweetheart table and right next to them a table with their BP and their dates.

We are doing Sweetheart! We want to eat alone, lol also almost all of our bridal party is married/engaged/in a serious relationship and I don't want them to eat alone! So we have 4 tables in the front for the bridal party all of the other tables for guests. My FH was a GM for his friend and I didn't know anyone. I sat at a table with strangers. He sat at the head table. It was awful.

We have a total of 8 in our bridal party. with all of the relationships plus FH and me it would be 15 people at a head table if we included spouses. FH wants this, I'm kind of indifferent but like the idea of sitting with our party during speeches.

I plan on doing a sweetheart table because the day is about us two, and to have a little alone time while we eat is something I will cherish greatly. As PP's said, don't separate Bridal party members from their dates. As the date of a best man recently, any second I was away from him I was uncomfortable.

Sweetheart table so we can have a few moments to ourselves and won't feel bad having to leave the table to mingle with other guests

I'd like a sweetheart table, I don't want to split up couples and our MOH and BM don't get along very well.

Sweetheart table. I want all eyes on us at our table and because I don't want anybody to sit with us lol they can sit with their SO

We're doing a sweetheart table

I feel like head tables are on their way out. I saw a bunch 10 years ago but haven't seen one in years. I hate head tables personally because it leaves the BP's significant others alone for a lot of the evening when sometimes they don't know many or any other people. And generally sticks them with all the dates of the other BP members, which if the only thing they have in common is they are married to or dating BP members can be super awkward. My FH does not do well in social situations such as that, and whenever I've been a bridesmaid he has had to confirm that I wouldn't be at a head table before going to the wedding with me.

And, for that reason we are either doing a sweetheart table, or a table that is us, both sets of parents, each of our brothers, and our brothers' dates and the BP will sit with their dates. Haven't decided yet.