Dedicated June 2018

Sweetheart Table or Head Table

SC , on November 15, 2017 at 6:19 PM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 123
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Which one did you do and why?


  • M
    Just Said Yes March 2018
    Megan ·

    Aren't they the same thing?

  • Ashley
    Dedicated March 2018
    Ashley ·

    Head tables are rude since they split couples. I have had this happen to me when I was a BM, and both myself and my FH were uncomfortable and upset as neither of us new anyone else at the wedding.

  • K
    Super March 2018
    K ·

    Sweetheart. I refuse to let the dates of my bridal party sit/eat alone.

  • Sally
    Devoted March 2018
    Sally ·

    We are doing a head table lucky for us our Bridal party are all married to or SO's of each other except for the best man and we will include his girlfriend at the head table... whatever your choice don't split up the bridal party from their SO's

  • Sally
    Devoted March 2018
    Sally ·

    @megan a sweetheart table is just the Couple a Head table includes Bridal Party

  • Future Mrs B.
    Devoted June 2018
    Future Mrs B. ·

    Every head table I've seen done has the BP's spouse or date seated at the table with them.

    ETA: we are doing a sweetheart table.

  • Celia Milton
    October 2019
    Celia Milton ·

    I haven't seen anything BUT a sweethear table and the BP at tables with their SO's in years. Like maybe once. I feel like that 'presidential style' seating at a massive head table is kind of dated too.

  • Bunnycita
    Super October 2017
    Bunnycita ·

    Sweetheart table!!

  • Ks_catonlap
    Super October 2017
    Ks_catonlap ·

    Sweetheart table so that everyone could sit with their dates.

  • Ashley
    Dedicated March 2018
    Ashley ·

    @FutureMrsB, that is technically called a Kings Table.

  • Going to the chapel
    Master July 2017
    Going to the chapel ·

    We did a sweetheart table and had a wonderful time being "alone". I love seeing sweetheart tables at weddings and seeing the wedding party seating with their friends and relatives.

  • Maleficent
    Super January 2018
    Maleficent ·

    I wanted a sweetheart table but my FH wants a head table. We talked to our bp and they said they would really like to sit at our table with us, so it looks like that is the route we are going to take.

  • Victoria
    Savvy May 2018
    Victoria ·

    We're doing a head table, for no other reason than that's what we like best, and we've never seen a sweetheart table at a wedding we've been to.

    Thankfully, we don't have to worry about the bridal party sitting with SOs, as the only 2 who aren't single are already both in the wedding party.

  • Mrs. Haug
    Devoted June 2018
    Mrs. Haug ·

    We are doing a sweetheart table because 2 people in our wedding party are going to be bringing their children and we didn't want to split couples.

  • 12.2
    Savvy December 2017
    12.2 ·

    Sweetheart table. I'm not splitting BP from dates/significant others, especially since some don't know as many people at the wedding. Also head table even with just parents & siblings wouldn't fit in our reception space [there are columns].

  • Elizabeth
    Master December 2016
    Elizabeth ·

    Head tables are rude. Go sweetheart all the way!

  • Miaaa
    Super January 2018
    Miaaa ·

    We're doing sweetheart table. We may even be able to spend a couple of minutes talking/eating! I haven't seen the head table done in many years- as a BM, I'd much rather sit with my friends/SO than the BP (unless I'm single and i'm hitting on them or something lol).

  • muriel
    Champion June 2018
    muriel ·

    @Ashley- adding SO's to the head table does not make it a King's table. A head table is located at the front of the room and is often elevated. It is a long table, sometimes with two levels if the number of people is large.

    A King’s table is a large rectangular or square table (depending on number of guests) for the entire bridal party including their guests, parents of the bride and groom and whoever else the bride and groom want to include.

  • Terri
    Dedicated November 2017
    Terri ·

    We did a head table with all the BP and their SO'S....they were thrilled! Head tables are no more rude than sweetheart tables - it's quite simply personal preference. Rude is the single most overused term on WW.

  • Jacks
    Master September 2019
    Jacks ·

    Terri we see a lot of rude ideas, though.

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