Just Said Yes October 2021

Struggling Bride

Denise, on May 26, 2020 at 11:03 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 11
I know this is a difficult time for so many brides with postponements and closures and unknowns. I’m finding it really hard to stay interested in wedding planning during this time. Anyone else struggling? My wedding is scheduled for 10/24/20. We haven’t decided if we should postpone or not and I can’t seem to find the energy to make a single decision. Everyone in my circle just tells me to wait it out, but if we are moving forward I need to get moving. How do I get reinspired?


Latest activity by Lynnie, on May 29, 2020 at 5:39 PM
  • Michelle
    Expert May 2021
    Michelle ·
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    That’s tough. I totally understand. I’m November 4th. I tried to recently re inspire my self by ordering some items for favours/gift bags. It helped a bit for a few days. (I avoided anything that I wanted a date on) It’s so hard not to let everything brings us down. But you need to keep planning! Other wise it will be September and you won’t be ready for your big day 😊

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  • Belle
    VIP August 2022
    Belle ·
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    I am feeling the same way. I recently got my jewelry and the robe I wanted. I just starting to lose excitement. I should feel very excited because my date is coming closer, I just feel sad about everything. Corona makes me depressed.
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  • L
    Super October 2020
    Leslie ·
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    I get it. I was almost done (we were getting rsvps back) and then a shrieking halt. It’s fear of unknown. We don’t know if there will be a spike in fall that may cause a second shutdown. I’m moving forward and I think we haVe a good chance for October as next April. I am just not printing anything with a date until last minute. The wedding might not look exactly as we envisioned, but we. An celebrate our love with those that can join and the rest on zoom.

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  • Lockie
    Savvy October 2020
    Lockie ·
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    My date is also October 24th and I’m struggling too!!!
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  • Sexypoodle
    Master October 2021
    Sexypoodle ·
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    It’s a very personal decision based a number of factors (ie. wedding location and plans, guest count, personal comfort, how much more you have left to plan, etc.). But most of all, I feel the decision depends on how flexible you are about your wedding not being “perfect”. If couples aren’t open to the possibility of decreasing their guest count, not having dancing or making safety accommodations, then maybe postponing until late 2022 or some time in 2023 will be a better option.

    We’re on 10/10/20 and not postponing anything unless the venue cancels on us. We just don’t see the point in purposely switching everything to a new uncertain date that’s only a few months away from the original date. I don’t imagine that life will remarkably different by April 2021. So we’re moving forward. Also, in our case, everything was booked, planned and purchased by January. So we don’t have anything left to do besides wait (oh...and order invitations). Best wishes with your decision!
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  • Trisha
    Super October 2020
    Trisha ·
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    Ours Is Oct. 17th And We're Moving Forward As Planned Unless Told Otherwise By Our Venue. We're In Virginia And Will Have 60 Guests. I Think You Should Keep Planning As Normal And Reassess The Situation Closer To Your Date. I Wouldnt Want You To Not Plan Now Because Youre Uncertain And End Up Having To Scramble Closer To The Date. Goodluck

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  • Margaret
    Master October 2020
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    Ours is scheduled for 10/10 - We've been on pause since the world shut down mid-March. I feel your pain. We found our wedding venue in February and have asked for a contract since, we visited the property (for our own pleasure) and asked to have the contract ready, then two weeks later the world shut down, we were told they would "hold the space" and get us our contract when they reopen. Well, they don't reopen until 6/1. Everything except for the venue is complete and contracted. We've delayed our wedding invitations because the hotel / venue has not been open to write our contract. Everyday, I try not to panic and hold faith that the venue will keep their word and send us a contract when they reopen (I did reach out 1 month after closure to let them know we were still interested and again 2 weeks ago - no response).

    I do feel your pain, it's hard to get excited with uncertainty, but I believe that October should be fine for weddings, maybe with some restrictions, but everything I've seen / read / heard all pretty much says that full crowds will be allowed when each locations goes into Phase 3 of their reopening plans.

    If I were you, I'd move forward, get excited, your day is almost here. Most importantly, have faith, it will all work out.

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  • T
    Devoted May 2021
    Trinity ·
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    I know what you mean. I feel the same right now. Our wedding is on 10/10/20, it is a very meaningful day to us, but many people have expressed their concerns. We have a lot of elderly and out of the state/country guests, so some of them have already expressed they will not be attending. My plan was to send out invitations in July, bridal shower in August, Bachelorette in September. However, the BMs expressed they prefer a place with less human interactions. It's very tough right now, hang on there.

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  • Tiffany
    Dedicated August 2021
    Tiffany ·
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    Ours is August 15, and ever since we've moved it from our June 13 date, I've done nothing except send out change the dates and get my dress fitted. I'm struggling to get motivated to do anything else.

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  • Lynnie
    WeddingWire Administrator October 2016
    Lynnie ·
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    You're definitely not alone right now Denise! ❤️

    Take a break from planning right now if you need to! Pamper yourself, or focus on less stressful planning items like your song selections and decor items. Here's a good conversation to join as well with other brides who've been sharing how they're coping with the roller-coaster of emotions: The 5 stages of grief...

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