Stressing more than ever

Don't forget to take some time out for self care! wedding planning can get overwhelming sometimes so it is important to take breaks for yourself

View Quoted Comment Thank you I know I try to give myself that time every week, but unfortunately I get wrapped up in this planning.

I 100% feel the stress kicking in too. We're 09/19 and I am starting to realize how much we still have to check off of the list. Even with having an intimate wedding/reception there is still so much to do!! I don't fault you for wanting to send out invites early, it's impossible to accurately buy stuff without having a decent idea of how many people are even going to attend. And we're supposed to wait until potentially 1-2 months before the wedding to even have an exact count by the time people get around to RSVP??? I wish boys were better at helping plan but my FH just doesn't seem cut out for planning it Good luck!!

View Quoted Comment I thought about doing the wedding the same day as you, but I we decided against it. No extremely stressful especially with buying decorations. Why overspend if you don’t have to? I think I’m gonna hold off on any more decorations due to not wanting to blow money. I wish you the best of luck as well. Men are not much help with wedding planning unfortunately lol

View Quoted Comment Omg amen to the men’s west house opening wth is taking them so long lol!! I’m scheduled to get married sept 4th my son and FH need to pick out their suit or tuxes !!

View Quoted Comment I would definitely look online to check out what they have so you already have an idea. It made the appointment go by so much faster. And honestly if your son is young enough you could always do like suspenders, a dress shirt and dress pants as an alternative.

View Quoted Comment My son is 13 so he is a tad grown. We picked out the tux/suit we like. They just have to go and try it on. My son is going through puberty so he def needs to be measured closer to the wedding lol

View Quoted Comment Oh yes that would make it a little harder lol but I’m praying they open soon for every single bride who is counting on them.

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I wouldn't even do that, but I nearly got burned.

DH wanted to order the invites before we got the ok from the priest, but I resisted. Which was a good thing, because the priest said no, and we had to change our whole plan around. If we had ordered the invites, they would have been completely incorrect, and we'd have had to order them again.

Basically - the 6-8 weeks is less an etiquette thing, and more of a "cover your rear" kind of guideline.

View Quoted Comment First if your on a strict budget then I would definitely wait a little longer until you order and send out invitations. Im October 30th 2020 so I’m about 4 months away too and as someone who has been planning since May 2019, Ive tried to stay ahead of the game especially because I have chronic illnesses that may flare up and put me behind. However given that we too are on a strict budget so until about August is when I will decide to order them. Usually 6-8 weeks is good and if I send them out starting at the end of August/ early September then I know that my guests have about almost two full months to receive and respond. I also am waiting to buy some stuff until later on in about 2 months because honestly anything can change at last minute and there’s a few brides who ended up having to completely put off their wedding until they can find time where rescheduling is the most convenient and because life is life, sometimes things happen. I have a bridesmaid who was supposed to marry in March and couldn’t and because she’s 35 and wants another child she choose to put off the wedding for now and get pregnant first because she already has her dress and everything. She had to postpone like a week before and then it took awhile for her to decide what to do because you don’t always get pregnant within a year or two so there’s many situations where things change last second and then life gets in the way for a little. Given that, once your dress is ordered and what not, you can’t return it and all that and given the situation and uncertainty for another month or two regarding the virus I would wait a little longer so you don’t end up spending money and then having to buy invites all over again which is the least of pain in the ass things that brides have been through. You can always send like a Facebook post saying like a count down or what not to keep your guests reminded but not too early. As a chronic sick person, I can say as much as I like to know things in advance to plan for my health, too far can slip my mind because there’s always doctors and this and that so when things are mentioned too early I have to be reminded to respond or make a doctors appointment in 2 months and stuff. I think waiting a little longer would be best especially if you didn’t do save the dates for budget reasons. Invited and RSVP cards are easily over 100$ depending on how many people are invited and per household and save the dates are about half the price or less which we went sent out around February so I much rather wait to order and send invitations out before I end up knowing that there’s a good chance it won’t end up postponed and have one more headache to fix and adjust because you will have to contact everyone and let them know you have to postpone and that is worse then trying to get RSVPs!!!

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I totally agree. It would also be great if Indiana opened up stores. We have a groomsman there that is moving to DC area soon and I would prefer he be fitted before he leaves considering DC is worst then Indiana. I'm so beyond stressed about this. Like honestly this has been my biggest stress factor with everything going on.

View Quoted Comment I waited it out and just sent them today and I’m glad I did because we had to cut down the list.