I am recently engaged and in the planning process. We chose the date 8/13/21. I have never been married and I am a single mom to 2 girls (11 & 2). I will be turning 39 this Friday.
now here’s the kicker.
I feel like I am on my own with all the planning and idea scheming. Every single thing I say I want or say I like SOMEONE from my life (mom, best friend, friends) will comment “can you afford that?” “That’s kind of expensive” “I did this...” “You should just do this.”
I have envisioned my wedding for many years. I have a fairy tail dream I want but Of course I understand that I need to be reasonable.
my cousin got married this last summer and my entire family fawned over her and her beautiful wedding Etc (which I didn’t even find remotely beautiful). My aunt proceeds to tell me I should just have my ceremony and reception at the AMVETS cuz it’s cheap. And serve salad and sandwiches from sams club. (No offense to anyone that may have done that). I stated to my best friend that I wanted a candy bar station and she says, “YOUR WEDDING IS GONNA COST 100K!!” How so?!
i feel as if I deserve more than that. I have sacrificed a LOT being a single mom. Working hard Etc. I do nothing for myself. Ever. Everything is for my kids. I feel like I deserve ONE day where I can be beautiful. Feel classy. And be in a beautiful environment. When I bring this stuff up they call me “Bridezilla” is it really that bad to want a beautiful wedding?? I feel like I have zero support in helping with anything.
sorry to unload, I just needed to vent somewhere where there may be someone feeling the same way.