Strange situation re: best man's date

All I can say is OMG, seriously?? Sorry, I have no advice at this point. I agree awkward situation, but I don't think that this person would be invited to the rehearsal.

That's a sticky situation. Does this persons spouse know that the best man is bringing her as date?

@APD, I assume so. I'm trying not to know any of the details. LOL.

What the heck?! That's so weird! This is a very strange situation, but I don't see how you would be obliged to invite the husband, which would mean giving your BM a plus 2, which is also very weird and unheard of. Do you even know this guest and her husband at all?

I know the guest, because she used to date BM, who has been FH's best friend forever. I haven't seen her since they broke up about 6 or 7 years ago.

That's such an awkward situation. If I was you I wouldn't get involved. But I do think you deserve to know what's going on. Since he's your FH best man I'm assuming they are pretty close so maybe have him to talk his BM and see what's going on.

Are they just really good friends? Maybe she just really wanted to come to your wedding because she used to know you guys. I wouldn't read too much into it. A lot of my best friends are guys and my FH and their wives wouldn't think anything about us going out together to a wedding.

Is your wedding local? If so then I don't think you need to invite her to the rehearsal. I've never been to a local wedding so usually dates are included in everything or they'd just be sitting at the hotel alone. HaHa!

Yep, wedding is local to all parties.

So odd. No to the husband. I would not invite her to rehearsal dinner. She is not his significant other, no reason to give him a date. That is probably a more intimate affair.

This seems like a telenovela powder keg of a situation to me. I personally would not want to invite that kind of potential drama to my wedding, rehearsal dinner, or even a backyard barbecue. This is the one day of your life that should totally be about you, so I would convey the awkwardness to my FH and stand united on a "no unnecessary drama" platform. Also, FH said BM was coming solo, that's what you made arrangements for, and it's not your job to add more stress to your life to accommodate awkwardness. If it comes to it, and I hope it doesn't, I'd encourage you to say "no" and stand your ground. A wise man will side with his spouse over anyone else.

Hope this helps, and I wish you a very happy married life.

No to the husband, but if they're okay with it, I don't honestly see how it affects you.

Rehearsal dinner? I'd talk to him. I don't think it's a must have....

I'd say no husband invited, and no to inviting her to the rehearsal. The rest? Eesh. I don't think there's enough words to describe how awkward this could end up being. Sorry you're out in this position!

She is his plus one. So yes she gets invited to the rehearsal. No to her husband. Wether their relationship is plutonic or not is not your business and personally I wouldn't read too much into it. My brother is bringing his married friend as his "date" to my wedding, but they are just friends.

@MrsWrs, he was always allowed to bring someone if he wanted; FH told me for 11 months he didn't want to. But he isn't spending any money on our wedding that's more than any other guest.

I would not invite her to the RD. She is a friend (I'm assuming), and attending as a FRIEND, that means she is not a SO therefore does not get invited to the RD.

SHE isn't the invited guest, she's the plus-one, so you are not obligated to invite her husband or send her a separate invitation.

I would actually say ok to that. It's not my situation to deal with if she's married. We have a few odd things like that in our close circle so it honestly wouldn't bother me to say yeah that's fine, for the wedding itself. For the rehearsal though I'd have to say no.

ETA: and her husband isn't even a consideration. Just. No.

^agree with @annakay that she's the plus one of an invited guest, so you have no obligation to invite her husband or anything else.

I had an awkward situation where we invited FH's sister...but she's in a polygamous relationship with multiple sister wives. We extended an invitation to her husband...but not the sister wives...reason being that she was not in a relationship with them, her husband was, and FSIL is the invited guest, not her husband.

Do not feel bad one bit! BM is putting you in the situation...it his his drama to deal with if there is any weird fallout.

I don't think that she should be invited to the RD. I think this is one of those situations that you should just let them be adults on their own. It is very odd though.

If he's bringing her as his guest then I would not invite the husband. Also, she shouldn't be attending the rehearsal dinner if she's not his actual SO.

I would tell him he can't bring a plus one since it's last minute. It annoys me to no end when people are inconsiderate. At any rate, you probably can't change that part of it so I woukdnt invite the husband and no need to invite her to the RD.