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Stop saying it's the worse year ever

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Kelsey, on July 23, 2020 at 4:02 PM

Is anyone else tired of hearing how this is the worse year ever? Even though so much has changed as far as some wedding planning goes, I'm still so happy that I get to marry my FH in 50 days. I honestly cannot wait! The one thing I am truly tired of hearing and seeing though on social media is how this is the worse year ever; it truly hurts when this year is going to bring so much good for me and my FH. When the pandemic started and places shutdown, my FH was furloughed; in May ( I think) we found out the branch of the company he was working was closing for good. He found another job about a month later. He is so much happier there then he was at his old job. So while many look at that as a bad thing, it turned out to the best thing and we turned this into a positive. I wish others would start doing that. I feel closer to my FH more than ever, we got to spend quality time together when we couldn't go anywhere. We got serious about what we are looking for in a house and watched a lot of HGTV to see what we think we can handle has far as remodeling goes. This hands down was and will not be the worse year. This year will still bring happiness to so many. I think that people's worse years are matter of perspective, mine was 2017. I won't go into details, but I don't find it fair for others to be saying this year is the worse year ever when I never even so much as thought about doing that during what I term as my worse year. Please tell me I'm not the only tired of hearing "it's the worse year"

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Expert June 2021
· on July 24, 2020 at 5:05 AM
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I am truly happy that you have found a way to make the best out of this year and not let the global pandemic and the complete uproar of this country get you down.

But as far as people saying this is the worst year ever. I honestly don’t think it is measured in comparison to hardships faced in other years I honestly believe (because I feel it too) that this year has brought about a new feeling of deep uncertainty and fear, not to mention grief that I don’t believe people have ever felt to this magnitude in any other year. For the first time (at least for me) the matter of life and death feels so much greater and yes, I know life is never guaranteed you can die any day but when you add a pandemic and people dying at mass rates and not just due to the pandemic it’s hard not to feel a negative way towards this year it’s hard to feel hope. Both my fiancé and I have parents who are all high risk (I can use all 10 fingers to list their illnesses) and I can’t even begin to tell you the deep stress emotionally and mentally it has on us for their wellbeing and safety. The longer this pandemic goes the longer our worry persists. Job security is not given. I work with babies and I cant physically do my job so my coworkers and I have been put on a month to month contract when we used to be guaranteed for the school year so it’s frightening and I am completely willing to use the wedding fund for an emergency if we have to. We also have not seen our family since we booked the venue in February. And our entire family since Christmas Eve when we got engaged, I still watch the video on my extra sad days just to see all of my family celebrating with us, hugging us, communing with us and deeply happy. That was our last communal time together and it’s a hard pill to swallow. We had no idea what was coming this country’s way. Our happy engaged time has become a time full of sadness, loneliness, and daily fear not just due to the pandemic but also the color of our skin.
This year has not been my worst year On Paper. My FH and I are in good health, maintained our jobs, can still pay rent and other necessities, were both able to work from home so no worrying about the other’s safety, and we still have a roof over our heads and our parents are safe. On paper we are okay except for the fact of being in heat wave NY in a tiny studio with those itty bitty windows and no AC. But we are okay. emotionally, however we are not and are on a daily roller coaster. And emotional well-being is important.
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