Stock the bar party !

What the what? Are you having guests pay for the drinks that are going to be served at the wedding? That's rude.

And it's dangerous too. And I can't think of a single venue that would let you do that.

Randi, yes I understand that is the party. However, do not do it!! No matter what your guests ask you to do. Do not throw this party. It is incredibly tacky and rude AF. Basically saying "hi guys, you're invited to my wedding, but you need to bring your own liquor if you want to drink."

Are you going to have them pay for their own food too? Please say no.

A ceremony is for the couple getting married, but the reception is a party for the guests. Just please don't do it.

That's extremely rude. You should be providing the alcohol for your wedding.

I have already purchased the bar for my guest ! It is not because I do not want to. The bar is completely taken care of . Several of my guest asked if they could host a stock the bar party so that at the wedding they would have the kind of liquor they would prefer rather than me choosing the alcohol they do not like.

My FMIL and FSIL hosted my shower and it was a 'stock the bar' party. I would not have planned a party for myself however. If someone offers to host one for you then great.

Are they really that particular about the "free" alcohol provided at a wedding that they would rather pay to have the specific one they like as part of the selection? Just wondering, never met anyone that was so picky with their booze choices that they would rather purchase it than enjoy the free option at a wedding.

No. Your guests are not responsible for providing the alcohol at your wedding.

Just ask them what type of drinks the vast majority would prefer and make sure your bar has that. It really is a bad idea, not much else can be said other than it makes you look bad and don't do it.

Thank you for all the advice !! I will tell my guest no . The bar is already purchased and done with. I was just wondering if it was something that HAD to be done. Thank you !!

I applaud you Randi! It took me longer than this to understand that.

PS, may want to edit the original post so others can see you have changed your mind.

Rebecca , they will not be paying for the Food at all or the alcohol. When several of my guest asked me if they could host it I thought it was something that I was supposed to do. Since I already purchased the bar I became worried that I had did something wrong

@ pandaplease I have no idea. I thought maybe that was something people did . I honestly thought you were supposed to have one once people asked me about like I said several times the bar is already taken care of if they do not like the liquor provided then I'm sorry

Don't do this. One: you shouldn't be hosting your own party and 2: this is just as bad as doing a honeyfund or a wishing well in my opinion. You shouldn't be asking for anything ever it's so rude and tacky especially when it's for serving drinks at your wedding

Even before I posted this the bar was already taken care of . That was one of the first things I thought of. But like I said some of my guest asked me to do this and I was wondering if I was supposed to this.

Even if this was a traditional wedding-related concept, you wouldn't be obligated to have one if you do not need to or feel comfortable doing so. I'm glad your bar is taken care of regardless!