Still waiting on Rsvps with only 8 days left.

Sorry you are going through this, but this is quite common..unfortunately. People just suck at RSVPing to events. I used to be one of them, until I planned my own wedding and realized what all went into it.

View Quoted Comment I think the worst of it is people are telling me I'm not giving them enough time and that I need to move my date because it's last minute. My wedding has been booked since last August.

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Yeah, they are just being ridiculous. That would be super annoying to me too. If it makes you feel any better: we invited 245, only 127 RSVPd by the due date, we had to do 100 or so follow ups, we ended up with a final guest count of around 177, then some (ex)family un-RSVPd after my step dad left my mom, so our count came to around 162....and we still had about 34 no shows on the actual day.

Ugh I just don't get why people can't just RSVP in a timely manner without us needing to chase them for one. It's so frustrating like we have to have final counts and stuff by a certain time, god! Well I hope it works out for you but honestly after x amount of time you could just assume people are a no

I’m sorry that you’re going through this, but 6 weeks before the event is an extremely early RSVP deadline. Invitations typically don’t even go out until 6-8 weeks before the wedding. I understand why you’re disappointed, but I also think you set yourself up for failure here.

I sympathize with your aunt. 2 weeks before her rsvp deadline, a friend texted me with a “I haven’t heard from you yet, does that mean you’re not coming?” NO , in fact it meant I’m still trying to piece together if it’s possible and I have 2 more weeks to get it figured out. I was so annoyed to be not being allowed the time I was given to rsvp that I just declined . You have an early deadline, and it hasn’t passed yet. Give everyone til the date that you set, and after it has passed, follow up for concrete answers. It’s not fair to get annoyed with people that haven’t actually done anything wrong yet.

You really shouldn't even be reaching out until after the RSVP deadline. You know how at work, when someone gives you a project with a deadline and you get annoyed when they're bugging you about it before it's due? It's basically the same thing.

Your RSVP date is also really earl. Ours was 4 weeks out and we definitely had to track people down. It just comes with the territory of planning any type of event.

My parents and H's parent's never sent us their RSVP. It's really not that serious.

I get that it's early but I'm also an early person and they all know that. Yes it is a set deadline but that does not mean to wait until the last minute, I refuse to chase people down after the deadline, as a college student/mom/my own wedding planner I do not have the time. I gave them an early cut but I also gave them an early start too. I understand they have their own lives and I have given it to them, there is a reason we send out invitations with a deadlines. At a job if you have a deadline and you miss your deadline your boss does not give you more time there is consquences, mine is being unable to attend. I gave out 2 week reminder, to those I speak to on the regular as a friendly reminder. For my aunt's and my fiance's family I pushed a bit because they were the ones who asked for an invite but they rarely ever try to keep in contact, I'm trying to be nice because they asked to be part of that day in our lives when they don't try to be part of our everyday lives. I love them but they don't talk to us unless it's something special, so I'm pushy and early yes I won't deny that, but I also am trying to make sure no one gets left standing outside.

Invitations went out for ours the 2nd week of June. The deadline for RSVP's is August 2nd for our wedding on September 14th.

44 have RSVP'd yes
22 have responded as "no"
33 have yet to reply.

I'm like... come on people... get it together. You've known for how long??

View Quoted Comment So glad to have a wedding twin! Lol and I was only a month before you when I sent mine out, I felt it was better to give them more time to think and less stress for me. And it will be less stress after the deadline because I'll have a fixed number and I won't have to worry about that right before the wedding. If people don't make it I won't make it my problem after the cut off, my new focus will be final details and finishing payments.

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I probably should have sent mine out earlier considering ours is technically a "destination wedding" since it's 5 hours away from where we live but timing wasn't in our favor. We got them out as quick as we could though so that's the important thing.

I'm going to start following up probably on August 9th and give them probably 24 hours to make a decision so I can get the numbers in to the caterer. I feel they have had plenty of time to research lodging and make a decision by that time. I understand things happen but sheesh... I needs to know! lol

I can so relate to this! Still waiting for about half of our guest list and our deadline is coming up! This is making me anxious. Makes me wonder if eberybody got their invitations or not.