Still have not received any RSVP's... No RSVP No come

We set our RSVP a couple weeks out so that we can call those who haven't replied and also give us time to invite people who we want to be there but couldn't quite make it onto our guest list due to the capacity of our venue.

I would give them a few days in case they mailed it out on the RSVP date, and then start calling or texting. I'm definitely not looking forward to when I have to go through this!

Take a deep breath. While I agree that it's quite low for the number you sent out, they will come. And yes, even if you had a higher number of responses, you'd probably still have to track people down afterwards. Life happens, and life doesn't revolve around returning an RSVP. Just relax, get something to drink and think about how all of this will soon be in the past and you won't have to worry about silly things like replies.

If I remember correctly, you had to have the RSVP date so far in advanced because of a count needed for the ferry and rooms, since everyone will be staying on the little island for the weekend. Correct? It's possible that people may not know if they can get off work this early. Maybe they just forgot completely. I return my RSVP the next day after I receive it. But I know that is not common. Can you wait one week after your RSVP date to start calling people? In the mean time, you can relay to close friends and family that you need an RSVP this early for _____ reasons and hopefully they can get you an answer.

Tracking down the people who don't send them back is just part of the process. A lot of people assume since they've previously told you how excited they were for the wedding, you must already know they are coming and they don't need to send back the card. Lame but true.

A lot of people mail them on the deadline, so wait a few days after the deadline passes to follow up. When do you actually need to give a head count to your vendors? Your RSVP date is very early, so people probably just aren't paying attention to the date and don't realize it.

But yes, I'm sorry this is stressing you out. Take a deep breath, take a bath and then figure out when you need to start following up. It is essential that you follow up with people who haven't replied yet so that you have an accurate number.

I'm sorry that this is happening to you. Of course you were excited to receive RSVPs in the mail. Of course you feel annoyed that people didn't take the time to return them after you went to the extra effort to include (and pay for) cards, envelopes, and stamps!

So for me my RSVP deadline was yesterday. I stopped pretty much getting RSVPs a couple of weeks ago. Most people RSVPed on my side, almost no one (except his parents and great uncle who added four people) RSVPed on my FH's side. I also was feeling at a certain point that I wanted everyone to send the card in instead of telling me over the phone etc. At this point I don't care, and I just want to know. A couple of weeks ago I decided to reach out via text to a few people that I was close to and said, I know that my deadline isn't for a while but I am excited about my wedding and I'm just wondering if you are able to make it. Most of them told me yes, sorry I thought I mailed my card or sorry I lost my card but yes! Now for the rest I am going to wait until Monday (two days after) after the mail arrives to start reaching out to the rest of my guests.

I know that you feel ticked off right now. You have good reason to, but I suggest that when your date arrives that you let it go and contact people. This sadly is just where our culture is headed, people aren't great at RSVPing. Since you have a smaller wedding I think you could reach out now to some of the guests you really feel close to and ask in a chatty way. And IMO just because there is a deadline doesn't mean that your guests are no longer invited if they don't respond by that deadline. You want to check in with people because there are people that will forget to RSVP and then just show up day of. You want to know how many people to plan for. Good luck!

NWR but we recently had a "bachelor" party for a guy in my group. We are engineers, 17 of us and I'm the only woman. It was at a local bar but I wanted a head count for tables. I emailed about 22 people and asked them to tell me on a Tuesday of they could go. Six responded. I started asking people, "hey are you coming to the party? You didn't tell me." Responses mostly " oh you knew I was coming." Yea cuz I'm a mind reader. People suck. I just got animvite to my nephews wedding. Got it Monday. Filled it out with2 people, chose the meal and mailed it Tuesday. It's not difficult!

So your rsvp deadline is almost 2 months out? TBH, I probably wouldn't have sent reply card in that early. I would have looked at the invite, saw it was for August, and stuck it in a drawer assuming I had plenty of time to reply. I'd give it a couple more weeks before asking people. Let them know you need to know in advance due to the ferry and room count. Be prepared though, it's hard for a lot of people to commit more than a month out. You're probably going to have to follow up more than once. I know that's not what you want to hear, but it is what it is.

@shamaybecakes, so you are b listing?

I would be venting too. I hate waiting Several are probably on the way, but it's obnoxious that people need to be hounded for these things. I'm sure I will be in the same boat when it's my turn. I also suck at returning things on time. I have one right now that's been sitting on the table, sealed and ready to RSVP, but I keep forgetting to put it in the mailbox.

Every RSVP card should include several ways to respond to get the best response:

1) Via the RSVP card.

2) By phone.

3) By personal e-mail.

4) By wedding website (giving address)

Then cross your fingers and hope for the best!

For future brides there is an RSVP service (an 800 number that guests call to rsvp. If they don't rsvp for whatever reason, after the deadline, they call, confirm whether or not they are coming. You can check online as often as you like to see who has rsvp'd and how many are coming. At the end, they give you a final count a list of all that are attending. It's a lot easier than keeping track of the rsvp's and dealing with what to do with those that don't respond.