Stepdad vows to stepdaughter...

Any ideas at all?

Personally I am against making vows to kids. Include them in the ceremony, sure, but the vows should be between those who sign the license.

Even him just basically making a promise to her? It wouldn't be a back and forth dialogue. I've heard different opinions, but wanted to make sure that was clear. It could still be your opinion, nontheless. : )

I still don't think wedding vows should be made to children lol.

My officiant made mention of how we were a family but no vows were said from my husband to my son.

Gotcha.

I would do it in private actually.

At my dad's wedding to my step mother, my brother and I had to promise to treat her nicely and so on and accept her as a mother figure (our mother died in 2002 and this wedding was in 2011) and she promised to treat us as her own and to not be the "wicked" setpmother. It was very lighthearted and kinda fun, not super serious or sad. Especially if your daughter is young, I would try to make it a light moment with a little humor so it's still touching but not so serious.

Is it odd...maybe...but your wedding is about what you and your FH want not what everyone else does!

You could make it something cutesy like he promises to be there to help heal things like boo boos and broken hearts..or keep secrets if she needs him to (nothing hurtful obviously)!

^^^ that sounds creepy as hell honestly lol

I think it's nice to have vows. She's a part of the marriage.

Humor, yes. My stepsister's new husband vowed her kids to love them like his own, take care of their mother.... I can't really remember, but it was incredibly touching. His vows to her were beautiful as well.

We are giving our girls rings. I'm giving his daughter a ring, he's giving my daughter a ring and we are giving Our daughter together a conjoined heart necklace to show we are committed as a unit. My son was asked for my hand and will be the one giving us away and his son is the best man. It makes the children feel important and included. When it's a family union I see nothing wrong with it. Do it your way... There's no text book to it

There's a lot of quote jewelry made for blended families, my 2 favorites are

-Today I tell your mom I do & I promise you forever too

-marriage made you my family, love made you my daughter

I think it's sweet, we're doing something similar... still have to work out the details.. where my FH gives my daughter a piece of jewelry and promises to love and care for her.

I see nothing wrong with it at all....

I like Kayleigh's quotes and may have to borrow those for our ceremony...

Our officiant suggested this website if we wanted to use this "Family Medallion" http://www.familymedallion.com

I think there's a script/vows that go with it..

I am not a fan of the vows, but that is my personal opinion. How about him giving her a necklace? It could even be a something he gives her before the ceremony to wear for the ceremony.

I have nothing to add (sorry) but I agree with Janeen, MrsC.'s post sounds creepy to me as well......"keep secrets if she needs him to" gross.

Lol about the "secrets". It does seem a bit strange. Awesome ladies thank you for your input!

My FI is giving my daughter a locket before hand. I am hoping she will be a part of our unity cross ceremony placing the center piece but she is 5 with Autism so I am keeping an open mind.

Vows are about choosing that person. By marrying you, your daughter is apart of a packaged deal. His vows should be to you. Taking care of your kid is part of his promise to you. I talked about this with my coworker who has a stepson and she was against vows to kids. He can't choose to make vows to you and not have anything to do with your daughter, so because he's obligated to care for her, no vows are necessary.

I wouldn't do vows but we are doing a part of the ceremony to include our two boys and giving them survivor cord bracelets. My son is 7 he is giving me away and my step son is 4 he will be the ring bearer. Our boys are very excited for the ceremony. We told them they both have the two most important jobs of the wedding. One in charge of rings and the other to make sure I get down the aisle. Lol they can't wait. I couldn't imagine not having our boys included. Vows should be between the couple tho

Eh, I'm not really a fan either. I think it may put a kid on the spot.