Step-Father Vs Biological Father-OPINIONS PLEASE

There is more to being a parent than just providing DNA...

Take it from someone who knows what you are going through! I am inviting my Bio-father ("Sperm Donor" that what we call him behind his back because thats all he contributed to me and my siblings) My step father that stepped in to my life when I was 3 or 4 and has been there ever since will also be there but out of respect for my Sperm Donor's family which will also be there I am having his ailing father to walk me down the aisle. I am potentially having two father daughter dances. If the Sperm donor acts a fool he will be asked to leave not only by me but his family as well, and in that case I will have my father daughter dance with the man that should have been my father in a perfect world.

Do what you want. I am not having my Step dad walk me down the aisle to keep the peace and that I have always wanted my grand father to do this, we moved our wedding up two years so that we knew he would have a better chance in making it to the wedding. If for some reason that my Grandfather will not make it my step father has been asked to be on standby.

I think the reason bio became a distinction was separate those that really parent us from those that didn't. You didn't make the decision, bio decided years ago to stand off to the side. If you don't have connections to sperm donor's (nice, BTW) family that will make it absolute hell than go with your heart. I refer to my step dad as my "real dad" (as in the one who did the real work that is fathering).

He'll walk me down the aisle. The sperm donor is more like an uncle.

Someone already said it! Your father chose his role. You were a child, and it was HIS responsibility to play a role in your life, and he failed to do that. The guilt will be there, but I think you made the right decision.

Stay strong!

Hi girlie! i have a similar situation, but different in that I love my bio-father and do want him to have a small part (but not THE part).. considering you dont feel like you really have a father/daughter relationship with your bio father, i wouldn't worry about it. He can be invited because he is someone in your life, but nothing more. be happy with that decision! Here is my forum, if you'd like to share your insight on my similar struggle.... https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/walk-down-the-aisle-step-father-vs-biological/178915b1a4d43dd8.html?utm_source=discussion_comment&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=discussion_comment