Step father and father

You don't have to have either of them walk you down. My cousin has a bio and step dad so she did two separate dances. ETA: She had our grandmother walk her down.

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It doesn't matter who is contributing what, when it comes to the honor of walking you down the aisle. It depends very much on your relationship with the person. With this limited information, I would say have your stepfather walk you down the aisle - your father made a choice when he chose not to be a constant in your life. Your stepfather also made a choice, to adopt you and be there for you "through everything" as you say! Another option would be to have both of them walk you. You can do two separate dances- I would say dance with your bio dad first.

I definitely say dance with both of them! My cousin's wife danced with both her dad and stepdad on their wedding day. She has a great relationship with both dads and wanted to honor them both. If I recall, she asked her mother to walk her down the aisle. This may be an option for you if you are particularly close to your mom and don't want to make either dad jealous. Otherwise, I would lean towards asking your step dad. Not because he's shelling out more money, but because it sounds like he's the one who has the actual father-daughter relationship with you.

I had both my dad and step dad walk me down the aisle and then did a dance with both of them. Danced with my dad first - not sure why I didn't really put that much thought into the schedule of the dances.

Have you thought about having them both walk you down? If it's too hard a decision have you thought about someone else? Your mom? A brother? It should be about who you want to walk you down not how much they are contributing.

I am in the same position so I can relate to this. I feel like either way someone will be hurt and there isn't any way around it. Being that my stepdad basically raised me and has been in my life for over 20 years now, I will have him walk me down the aisle. He has always been there for me so I feel like that honor should be given to the person that has truly been there.

For the dance, he actually talked to my mom and told her that I should have my first dance with my dad instead of having two dances because he said it would be a little awkward. I was so happy he said that because that made that decision so much easier as well!

I haven't talked to my biological dad about it yet. I Know he expects that I would walk down with my stepdad but it still doesnt make telling him easier. While it is expected, I know deep down he will feel bad. Either way someone might be a little hurt but at the end of the day the person that walks you down should be the person that has always been there for you.

I hope this helps and makes your decision easier. Good Luck.

And your getting married on my brother's birthday and the day my stepdad and mom got married! It's a good luck day! :o)

I'm having both my dad and step dad walk me down the aisle as well as 2 different dances.

Also, if you choose to have both walk you down the aisle, make sure the aisle is wide enough!! Haha its going to be a close fit for us bit I wouldn't have it any other way!!

Both - I wanted my dad and grandad (he raised me) but sadly grandad passed away which I'm still dealing with. So nanny will take his place and walk me down with my dad

Both of course!

ps It's "aisle"

Or by yourself or with your fh.

The possibilities are endless

I've had this same dilemma with my wedding! i was lucky to have both my dad and step dad in my life. My mom and step dad have been together since i was 3 and i lived with them. My dad has recently made comments to my FH that he will NOT walk me down the aisle if i have my step dad walking with us too so i feel terrible. My step dad has told me over and over its my day and my decision and he will respect it no matter what! It's a hard decision. I agree on the two separate dances though! Gives you a special moment with each of them.

My Dad and Stepdad are both walking me down the aisle. Will dance with my Dad for the father/daughter dance and will be dancing with my Stepdad for Bride & Groom's choice dance.

My dad will walk me down the aisle and have the father daughter dance. But i will be sharing a dance with my step father-he hates to be the center of attention so we won't make a huge deal out of it. But we did include him when making plans for our fathers and such. He's been there for 13 years, our relationship hasn't always been the best but he's always done his best by me and I want to make sure he knows how much i value that.

You pick. I have a dad and stepdad also. I'm having my bio dad walk me down the aisle because my stepdad has two other daughters (my half sisters and bridesmaids). I am having my stepdad read a passage at my wedding to include him. I am doing my grooms mother-son dance first and then my with my dad then me with my stepdad. My dad isn't contributing (that I know of) but my mom is (so my stepdad is). I picked my father-daughter dance and had my dad pick my stepfather-daughter dance song to not hurt feelings. I've had both in my life pretty much my whole life though. You have to choose for you.

Both my dad and stepdad walked me down the aisle. I danced with my dad first because he was in my life first, but also danced with my stepdad.

I know exactly how you feel with having to choose and decide...

My father has not really been there in my life since I was in intermediate school. Even when our first child was born, he was only there at the hospital the day she was delivered and hasn't really seen her since (Which in a way pissed me off he wasn't there for her first bday because his wife purposely got drunk-alcoholic and forced him to stay home for her).

My stepfather on the other hand has always been there, for me,FH, and our daughter. My mom married him when I was 4. I despised him when I was younger and now I know why he was the way he was. I will add, FH doesn't care for my biological dad due to him not really acknowledging him when we're both in my bio-dads presence. So FH specifically told me it wouldn't feel special/anything to him if my bio-dad gave me away.

So my Stepdad is walking me down the aisle, and I'm having my Bio-dad dance the father daughter dance with me first, followed by stepdad father daughter dance.

I have the same issue tho as Private User mentioned.....my bio-dad isn't informed about any of this. He doesn't even know we're getting married due to me not knowing how to break it to him. I know he'll be hurt or worse, angry (yes my dad will be angry due to he doesn't like my stepdad at all-which having them both walk me down the aisle was out of the question). I'm dreading the day I need to tell him, which thinking about it needs to be soon (yikes!!).

I'm struggling with this too, unfortunately. My parents divorced and remarried when I was young so my step parents have been in the picture for pretty much my entire life. My dad lived in the next town over most of my growing years so I grew up with him present in my life. But I primarily lived with my mom and step dad and he had a big part in the raising of me too. All of my student-teacher conferences had my mom, dad and step dad there. I love both of them and I think I want them both to walk me down the aisle. However, my step dad told me that he thinks my dad should walk me down the aisle and when we started talking about tux rentals, he said to my mom that my dad should be in a tix and he will likely go with a suit. I want to talk to my dad about including my step dad in my walk down the aisle but I don't want to hurt his feelings either. Any thoughts about how to approach this with both of them? Thanks!