Staying engaged for 2 1/2 years before wedding too long?

My FH and I have been together for 7.5 years at this point. We got engaged last Sept. ('09) and we're getting married May 8, 2011. At that point we'll actually have been together for just about 8.5 years and engaged 20 months. I think it's a good idea to wait and be able to pay for the wedding without breaking the bank or going into debt. We too are paying for it ourselves and waiting was such a good idea for us--we could have gotten married this summer and totally broke the bank, but we didn't want all that stress.

No I dont think that it is too long! Sometimes it is less stressful to have the additional time to plan! :-)

Yeah it is totally what you guys want and can handle...my FH and I were together for 7 years before we got engaged June 09, our wedding is only 13 months after that...so in a sense you guys are just opposite in the time not engaged vs time engaged....

No that is no problem. We had to push back our date a 1 1/2 years later. And our date was perfect since we had been together for 8 years.

O wow Thank you so much for your help girls!

after reading all your thoughts you defitnitley made me feel alot better,

when i found out we would not be able to have it next summer, i got upset about it,my MOH told me to just cut down on the wedding list we originally had 180 people cut it down to 150 and thats the best we can do and the area that we live in, wedding venues are a bit pricey.

but i think with the economy being the way it is now waititng a little longer is acceptable and im sure most people understand.

Yup, you gotta do what you gotta do. I will be engaged about 19 months and I am grateful for it because it gives me a lot of time to plan and save.

It gives you time to save up to having the wedding of your dreams. There is nothing wrong with that.

Fh and i have been engager for 4 years and we are getting marred aug 2011. i say take as long as you need to have the weddie you what.

My fiance and I have been engaged for 2 and a half years, and we still have a year before the wedding.

The time you wait is up to you. Take the time you need to make it the day you want.

My FH and I have been together for 7 years, and have been engaged since 12/24/09. At first we were planning on getting married 5/14/2011, but then we moved in together and figured - why wait? We seriously scaled back our expectations, as we came to conclusion spending a TON of money on one day seemed kinda foolish to us. (no disrepect to those who wish to spend more!) We decided to move the date up to July 31, 2010. It's a LOT sooner, but I'm very happy with that decision, personally.

However, the length of your engagement is very much YOUR decision. It doesn't really matter what anyone else thinks. If you and your FH are comfortable with it, then that's all that matters!

We've been together for 7 years tomorrow. We got engaged 2/15/08 and are getting married 7/31/10. It goes by fast! I kept saying I've still got plenty of time, but now I don't...it's only 53 days away!!

I will have been engaged for about 2 1/2 years by the time my wedding rolls around and to be honest it doesnt fase me at all. The time has flown by and we really didnt set a date till about nov or Dec of last year LOL. Its not to long at all. Why rush the wedding when you know your going to be married and be together for ever any way

In sep we will have been together for 6 yrs

Nope. We are doing the same we were engaged in 2009 about a year and a few months after dating. So it will be about 2 1/2-3yrs before we get married. Its the best thing for us right now. Time still flies by fast either way

I dont think its too long at all especially if you need to save the money. you have a good reason. as long as your relationship is not suffering and you are stable with finances and health insurance and its not hurting you to wait, no dont sweat it and dont let anyone criticize you about it either.

It's not too long. My FH & I will be engaged for the same amount of time when our day finally comes. We had to postpone for the same reason.

My FH and I are waiting until 9/2012. I am actually excited about having so much time to plan and organize (AND FUND!) everything. I feel like I have the opportunity to take my time and make sure I get the best price for everything since I'll have time to do A LOT of research.

It's not too long at all. That extra time can be extremely helpful in acquiring funds and ideas and such. We were dating 2 yrs before getting engaged (we had been friends for 5 before then) and were engaged for 3 yrs.

I got engaged July 2009 and our wedding isn't until June 2011 so almost 2 years. Not gonna lie...sometimes I wish we didn't have to wait so long, but we are paying for our wedding and like you, need to save up for it first. Overall, though, I think its the best choice, because we have been able to space things out and work through things slowly. That way, we are not bombarded with deposits due and appointments all at the same time. Good luck!

My fiance and I are doing a 2 1/2 year engagment to save up money and get through school, so that once we are married we can have things sorted out. (: The hardest part is being so darn excited to plan the wedding and having to reel myself in so I don't drive everyone nuts.

My friend Autumn was engaged for nine years. Meaning with a rock on her finger, totally committed, taken, done, engaged. *shrug* I don't know why, as I never heard of any kind of relationship problems or anything. They just were. (Odd that after nine years of engagement they went to a drive-thru chapel in Vegas, though. You'd think they'd have used that time to plan something bigger. But hey...she's happy.)

So I think 2.5 years is fine. =0)