Starting Over

There IS a silver lining!!!!! I'm sure the wedding at your honeymoon location with the closest friends and family will be amazing!!!!!

I have looked into sandals and it's technically not free because you would have to pay for the license. You may pay about a few hundred dollars. Look into their wedding packages because they are definitely much cheaper then a wedding and then you guys get to do a destination. I'm only going to suggest this that if you plan to do a destination wedding there then you're going to have guests on your honeymoon. You could even though it's not what you want ultimately just choose a cheaper venue and reception option and still have the small intimate ceremony. Or you to could elope and then have a post reception party after. I'm so sorry and I do understand your frustration because plenty of times I plan and had my heart set on something and planned amd did research for the FH to decide that he just doesn't want to spend the money and then basically cancel everything. I'm pretty much there now where I'm just about to say if he just wants to go to the courthouse then whatever. I won't be happy but at the same time I'm not going to keep getting excited for him to show how disinterested he is. You two will definitely work something out and if you are postponing the wedding then you do have time to save up and have something nice. I would definitely look into affordable venues and maybe do the reception at a friend's house or your house. Eventually you will get to have a day that you want. I really am sorry because I do understand your feelings.

View Quoted Comment Thank you! I just wish we figured it out a long time ago and saved money but we also weren't looking for it. Its frustrating but I'm still somewhat excited to explore this route.

View Quoted Comment You are absolutely right. I did mention checking elopement again (original plan). We'll just have to check out both. That's unfortunate to advertise a free wedding and then it not be free. We did think about people being on our honeymoon but we'll see what happens. Thanks for the heads up 😁

There is a silver lining! That sounds amazing! It's going to be so great!

A DW is going to be fun. I can't wait for mine, and it's also super intimate. Including us, there will be only 10 of us. We won't need to hire a DJ for dancing, and we don't need to cater so we're going to a restaurant, and everything is a bit more chill. Think of all the money you will be saving which will help you guys out a lot.

We are "gifting" accommodations and travel for our family members, so we are only paying for their hotel for 3 days. This helps a lot because we will have a mini-moon after they all leave for a couple of days

We have started over with our plans a couple times! Mostly because we could not decide what we wanted bc budget and also our family situations are complex... it is super frustrating (for me mostly) because I spent hours and hours researching... but now we are set on our location and venue so there is a silver lining and you will get excited again!! (ours is in April 2021 so we have awhile to wait too)

View Quoted Comment Very true. It does sound like a lot of fun and that makes a lot of sense. I was thinking about who would be financially responsible for the rooms but we'll see what happens. Thank you!

View Quoted Comment As long as I know I'm not alone! I feel like a little bit of weight has lifted but it's still unfortunate.

I'm sorry you're having to go through this! I hope everything turns out even better than you ever imagined

I think intimate destination weddings are the BEST!! The couples and their guests have the best time at them! True, you will have people on your honeymoon with you. However, this is going to be a vacation for them as well, so I’m sure they will all be off doing things they want to do. And everyone knows it is your honeymoon, so I’m sure they will understand the 2 of you need time alone as well. Embrace this new plan and have fun with it girl!!!

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Thank you!! I really appreciate it. It's been a rough few months.

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That's actually what FH and I were talking about. I felt weird about it but he said he felt fine. You're right. It will be a vacation for them as well and I would hope they understand (mostly the few on my side). We just won't expect much of anyone to show up this time since it's adults only but that's ok. I discussed elopement with him but now I'm still going to look into the sandals wedding as well.

Thank you!

I'm so sorry! I remember how thrilled you were when you booked your dream venue (we're local, so I know it well...). However, I'm a firm believer in silver linings and am sure your new plan with have many advantages and be even more wonderful in the long run! Good luck!

I'm sorry you're having to start over! A destination wedding sounds so great, though, and how fun will it be to get married in a tropical country!

I am so sorry this happened, but like you said, "silver Lining". Everything will work out fine. I hate that you lost everything you had put into planning thus far. I pray that it comes back to you 10 fold.

I'm so sorry you guys lost money and you had to start all over. but at least the silver lining is there AND you still get to marry your best friend!!! i do hope your day is absolutely perfect

I'm so sorry, but keep your mind on the goal: You're married the love of your life. At first, my husband and I had other plans, we wanted a bigger wedding at a different location. But then we realized that it was too pricey and we decided to have a 21 guest wedding at another place, it was incredible and I didn't change it for anything in the world. I'm sure your day will be amazing as well.

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Thank you! That really means a lot. I'm still trying to look forward in our new plan. It's still pretty heartbreaking though.

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That's very true. Definitely trying to see the bright side on that part. I guess it just sucks knowing that it will also be our honeymoon and everyone will still be there afterwards lol. Hopefully no one stays as long as us so we can have some actual alone time lol

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Thank you!! It's very frustrating that we had to start over but definitely trying to keep my head up about it.