Starting Dinner w/o Newlyweds

Well you clearly had your mind made up and didn't care what anyone suggested. Enjoy your very odd and rude dinner?

I'm assuming you missed the part where i said we'd do additional pictures during cocktail hour and not do a grand entrance and just spend the reception talking to guests but that's still rude somehow..? Noted.

ETA I actually liked most of the comments in here

Why did you ask? If you don't want to spend time with your guests, don't invite any.

Lol, have a blessed day sweetheart.

Anyone who thinks I don't want to spend time with my guests at a 5 hour party because I'll be gone taking pictures for 20 minutes is choosing to misunderstand at this point or just didn't read the other comments

You as well, darling lol

It's both. If MY guests (the people who actually know us and me) think it's rude to take 20 minutes to ourselves then yes it's such as life because they know me better than that.

The timeline adjustment is the timeline adjustment. I'll still be gone for part of the night (cocktail hour) during the time i planned to do pictures with them to do pictures with FH

This is just such an odd post. Why are you on here?

Proper etiquette states that the guest do not eat till their host eats. I'm actually surprised that your DOC is okay with that idea. But it is after all your day, you do what makes you hapoy, but know guest are gonna talk and it will get back to you how they found that to be weird and rude that you skipped out on dinner.

I mean, buffet it self is problematic, but nobody here is going to tell you any of your "we want to eat in seclusion" is a good idea.

I think most have an assumption that I'm missing the entire dinner... originally it was just the beginning because we would be taking pictures and eating...then i said we'd do that during cocktail hour.

Somehow there's still an issue lol smh

How the fuck is a buffet problematic???

Don't you want to spend time with your guests? You'll have plenty of time for pictures during cocktail hour.

@ Lilly, I'm guessing the "problematic buffet" = if the OP's dinner is a buffet-style dinner, then that means the OP and her FH have to serve themselves from that buffet and thus be in full view of their guests getting food and then peacing out to eat alone. That's even ruder than just eating in private.

What a ridiculously dramatic statement, "problematic buffet".

Oh Please. Now we're buffet shaming?? As long as a host isn't self catering and is providing enough food, she's fine. Good lord.

ETA Abbie I'm sure the food would be brought to the couple if they planned on eating alone. The problem isn't the buffet here, it's the eating in seclusion:

Abbie, let's hope. I can see how that part would be problematic but not buffets themselves.

We were going to be served not go through the line ourselves

Of course we want to spend time with guests which is why we were mingling during cocktail hour when they were actively moving then eating and doing pictures while they were going to get seated, bless the food, and be dismissed for the buffet.

People assumed missing the start of dinner meant missing all of dinner..? However, I see the majority find eating in seclusion to be rude so we adjusted

I've never seen it either but somehow that's the assumption

My fh and I will be served. It makes sense, so we can eat first and make our greeting rounds.

I have actually heard of this, and attached a link to one article speaking on the couple eating separately. As I haven't seen it done, I'm not certain how well it would go over and may feel a bit strange. However, I don't think in the grand scheme it's that big of a deal. The DJ or whomever will announce for tables to go get their food, the bride and groom mingle among the tables... I think you're perfectly fine. In the realm of "rude" hosting, I think this is a minor concern.

https://www.jessicaryanphoto.com/wedding-day-wedding-tip-dinner-cocktail-hour/