Starter Ring??

Is he the one that's embarrassed about it? Many people connect the size of the ring to FH's profession and how much he makes. He may want you to tell people it's a starter ring so that he doesn't look bad. But personally, I wouldn't tell people it's a starter ring. I would tell them how much you love it and how perfect you think it is. And I think that's something you should communicate to your FH (if you haven't already), and you could care less about what people think. What matters is that YOU love it and the ring isn't important. Your love and commitment to one another is what's important!

I agree with T. I'll add that I think it's a little weird when people talk too much about their rings, no matter what they're saying.

I don't think you need to say anything about the ring unless someone asks to see it, and then a simple "I love it!" is plenty.

Maybe talk to your FH about this. He is obviously embarrassed about the size. I applaud you for not caring what people think but I wonder if your FH knows that you love the ring just the way it is. You shouldn't tell anyone it's a starter ring. If years down the road you guys have the money for a "show stopper" then that's great, but this ring represents where you guys are now and that's beautiful. Anyone else's opinion of your ring just doesn't matter.

I think you should tell him how you feel. Let him know how much you love your ring. Congratulations on your engagement!

Do you have a picture of your ring ?

My FH was very similar. I actually don't wear jewelry apart from earrings so I did not want a very blingy ring. He took me ring shopping after we got engaged and I was leaning more towards very simple rings much to the dismay of the store rep and my FH. I ended up getting a small halo diamond ring and he was pleased because it had a little sparkle which he could show off. I think many men worry people will think they could not afford a nicer ring if they get a gemstone or a small diamond ring. Just let him know you love your current ring! As a compromise, tell him he can get you a showstopper on your 5 or 10 year anniversary.

I worked with a girl who got engaged and I think SHE was the embarassed one. Her ring was pretty but as soon as she showed people she would say "he got a great deal and he can exchange it for a way bigger one in the future" it always rubbed me the wrong way like why do you feel the need to explain anything to anyone! He picked out your ring and if that is all he could afford who cares! It just a ring-your marriage is the important part. So I think it's great that you don't mind the ring.

Make sure he knows how much you love it. And don't tell people anything other than his much you love it bc that's the truth.

My FH kept making comments about wanting to upgrade my engagement ring but I'm not interested. I love my ring and I intend to keep it. But I think he wanted a bigger obe.

When we got engaged, FW kept telling me that my engagement ring would be upgraded when she was in a better place in her career.

I just said okay, if that's what you want, but I'll still wear the original on my other hand.

She thought that was pretty funny, and it made her realize how much I loved and was attached to my e-ring. She's no longer planning an upgrade

Don't tell people that. It just screams "I'm compensating for something" and/or "im insecure".

My fiancé proposed with his mother's ring and told me "This is just a place holder! I know it won't fit you and it isn't even really your style, I want to take you to get your ring, but didn't want to propose with nothing "

Now, I loved his mom's ring...and I also didnt want to seem ungrateful, but I am so in love with my custom ring and so glad he insisted on me getting "my" ring

The photo attached is my ring with the wedding band. **edit** I agree there is no reason to tell other people that it's a "starter" or whatever. I only had to tell people because his mother was a pixie lady, her ring was a size 4 and I'm a 7.5...so I was wearing it on a necklace instead of my hand, until we got my ring.

If you are unsure of the ring...have that conversation with your FH. But I would not be going around trying to 'explain' or justifying the ring you have...even if it's your FH's request.

If you love the ring, wear it & be proud of your relationship: )

Just make it clear to everyone that your ring is amazing in bed and the best you've ever had.

And, in all seriousness, tell him you love it and it suits you perfectly. And that you're so happy it came from him.

I get comments all the time about mine and it drives me nuts. My ring is a family ring (was my grandmas). I LOVE the fact that it was my grandmas, it makes it that much more special. But people feel the need to comment about how FH didn't technically buy me the ring. And I'm like annnnnd your point? Are you trying to say he's cheap, didn't want to bother to take the time to go pick one out? Like I don't get it it's not your business. I can tell the comments hurt FH too which makes me even more mad. But guess what it's our life and I LOVE my ring, FH loves the fact that I'm happy with it and that's all that matters and all that should matter. So to everyone and their snotty little remarks I simply roll my eyes to FH and say whatever to the haters lol. Your ring is special because it's yours.

As someone who purposely asked for a modest ring I totally get it. Unfortunately as much as women are judged by our looks men are judged on their ability to provide. At first I too felt like I had to explain (which makes no sense if you know me IRL) because I didn't want people to think he wasn't professionally accomplished.

And then I thought about it, like really thought. Now I respond "thank you." When someone pays one a compliment regardless if it is on our new home, new dress or professional accomplishment we don't need to apologize or explain ourselves. f-it!

-Signed a purposely requested a small stone owner

If you love your ring and what it signifies is all that matters. No need to worry or care about others opinions/comments.

There is no need for embarrassment or explanation. Many of us get rings we weren't expecting and wouldn't be our #1 choice but we love them despite anything. They are ours, we love him/her & spending the rest of lives together.

My FH used to be embarrassed of my ring because it was a white sapphire ring from Zales. But he was 19 so I didn't expect a real one! He's insisted on replacing it this year now that he's 24 & has a FT job. I love my ring even though it's falling apart by now. I'll always keep it. Tell your FH that you love it and aren't ashamed

FH feels like he needs to get me the best of the best but his paycheck doesn't agree lol. He bought me a very nice ring with a diamond that was acceptable in his mind. He had previously discussed a ring upgrade down the line, but the ring we picked has the ability to just take a bigger diamond. So he is thinking that getting a bigger diamond down the road, would free up my diamond for another piece of jewelry so I never get rid of the jewelry he got me. I'm a sentimental person so this really was the only option for me.

Definitely be open with FH about how you feel and try to get him to be open with you.

Your engagement ring will always be beautiful just because of the sentiment it carries! Most people, I'm sure, won't comment or even talk to you about the size. It's rude if they do!

It's a status symbol for men as it is for women. We may say we don't care but some people are really insecure- like the girl who wouldn't shut up about her ring being from tiffanys. So what? It's a backhanded way to say "I'm better than you because I have more money than you." It's not a contest. My ring is not a diamond- it's a sapphire and I'm in love with it. I have no intentions of upgrading ever. And if you love it- you shouldn't either