STAGE FRIGHT....any shaky brides out there!?

I also hate thinking about "all eyes on me" but I've been told to just focus on my FH and pretend it's just him and I. I'm sure it will all go by so fast!

I was terrified. I just focused on my husband and when he wasn't shaking, I didn't shake. I focused then on projecting my voice well, because I speak rather softly. As if I were doing a book reading. When I did those 2 things,I felt much better.

I think it's something where you're going to feel nervous until it's happening and then you'll be so happy and so in the moment that you won't think about anything else other than marrying the person you love.

I hate being center of attention, hate! I get over anxious just thinking about it. If I'm not drunk that day I will probably be medicated just so I don't pass out or throw up walking down the aisle.

I'm terrified! When I get nervous I can't catch my breath - like, it's ridiculous. I once had to go have an important talk with my boss and I could hardly speak. Luckily he's upstairs so I could be like "man, those stairs!" Haha.

I guess I'm just going to focus on FH and try my best to pretend it's just us. You can do this!

I get nervous also when I'm the center of attention. I promise you the second I saw DH I didn't see anyone else. I was ugly crying also but we just kept looking at each other and it felt like we were the only two in the room. If it wasn't for pictures I wouldn't have even been able to tell you who was in the front row.

My hands shake on a regular basis, so add nerves and I thought I'd be a hot mess. Just tell DH your concerns and he can make sure he holds your hand to steady it.

I'm right there with you. Bring a BM gives me anxiety and public speaking... is a no go! I'll prob need a shot or two before I walk down the isle. Luckily, we are having a small wedding.

It is normal to be nervous in such a situation. try not to be self conscious about your reaction to such an important event and all eyes being on you. Focus on your husband for comfort while standing up there. It seems important to you to avoid alcohol so make that not even an option.

Yes! I am horrible at public speaking and feel like I'm going to be a shaking, stuttering mess! But I keep reminding myself to just look in his eyes and pretend like no one else is there. I know he'll be worse off than me!

It makes me nervous thinking that ALL eyes will be on me but I think the best thing to do is focus on your FH. It'll make you forget anyone else is there.

I was SO nervous in the days leading up to the wedding. ... particularly so, because we had about 60+ people watching our live stream on top of the guests who were actually there.

When the time came, I was so focused on the moment and on DH that the nerves really didn't come into play. I was super shaky before the ceremony started but once it did, it was fine.

This has been a big worry of mine. I won't have anyone giving me away so I'll be walking down the aisle alone and that scares the crap out of me more than standing up there with FH, at least some eyes will be on him. When I'm nervous I tend to rush thru my words so I'm going to have to remind myself to just breathe and slow down.

Oh my gosh, I've had the same worry--about being nervous and dropping the ring...I'm planning to try to focus just on FH and hopefully that will help keep me calm and ignore everyone watching us!

Yep, I'm the same way. I'm very introverted, I hate all eyes on me, I don't like attention, and I have an ungodly, unbeatable fear of public speaking, lol. I am so afraid I will be anxious and shaky. But challenge excepted.

Drinking doesn't help, anyway. I've done that before. You end up just looking like a drunken shaky mess. I don't know what I'll do to help, but I've been told; don't lock your knees and don't stand stiff. Focus on the moment and it'll go by quickly. ETA: words

I hate that others feel like me...but help so much that I'm not ALONE!! lol

We chose a JP that came with so many great reveiws about how he calms the nerves of brides who freak out...by adding an element of humor (done right) and does a short, light hearted and very personal/customized ceremony that is geared towards the bride and groom (with stories we'll share when we meet him) so that maybe that'll help as it won't be a long, drawn out, serious ceremony...short, sweet, and a bit humorous (just like us) and hopefully the nerves will elude me....one can HOPE righ??!! haha

The last wedding I went to the bride was SO nervous she didn't even smile walking down the aisle. I told my FH, "She looks like she's really mad". I won't have that problem because I get a nervous smile when I'm feel awkward and nervous.

But yes I'm very nervous to have every one staring at us all day!

I expressed these fears to a friend who was married last year and she commented that what they say is true, as soon as you see FH at the end of the aisle, you'll forget everything else. Just enjoy the moment, take some deep breaths, it'll be great!

3 days before my wedding.... ummm yes! Me!

I'm in the same boat, but my plan is to speak directly to FH and focus on him and what the officiant is saying. That's what it's all about anyway!