Spouse of the Bridal Party

View Quoted Comment Its not that I can't stand to sit with strangers for a little bit. I just find it slightly inconsiderate to invite me as a guest then isolate me from the one person I know.

I think it's a good learning experience for others in the planning process to hear it from the guest point of view.

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Thats a good point.

I've been to weddings where I didn't really know anyone, and it was awkward at first but people at my table were super friendly. I'd just show up at the ceremony right before it started, no one is talking anyway so it shouldn't be awkward. Then you can see your husband stand up at the alter with his friends, I always think that's kind of fun!

I'd have FH ask a few questions. I think it's thoroughly possible, if not probable, you'll be sat with other misplaced wives, husbands and girlfriends. Just make the best of it.
There's a total lesson for the rest of us here, though. I can easily see you two cutting out as early as possible over something that could have been solved with a note or phone call putting you in touch with someone who is either in the same boat or could be just welcome you into their circle and will be seated near you. (The fact that you weren't named on the invite does seem to make this feel less likely.)

Given that your husband is in the wedding party and clearly it's a great friend of his or he wouldn't have been asked to be in the wedding party, you should go to the ceremony. Weddings are very easy places to make conversation with people. "Hi, I'm _____. How do you know the couple?" That should get you started. I will say I think head tables are awful - all guests, including the wedding party should be seated with their family/friends/SO, etc.

As for the "& guest", you are correct, they should have put your name on the invitation.

I've been in this boat before! Are you going to the rehearsal dinner? That gave me an opportunity to meet some other people that the bride had thoughtfully seated me with. That made dinner a little more bearable!

To me, splitting couples says, "please come to my celebration about love and commitment, but I am separating you from the one you love and are committed to."

View Quoted Comment Lol. Agreed

I've learned so much on this forum already! There are things I've read (splitting couples), but never thought much about until it directly impacted me.

Personally, I think it's crappy hosting to split up couples. You wouldn't do it to any other guests but because it's your wedding party somehow that makes it ok. We sat with our wedding party and their dates/so's at a regular round table. (Because head tables are horrible for actually being able to talk to anyone besides the person directly next to you) That all said, you should go to the whole wedding. Nobody's making conversation during the ceremony and you can take advantage of the open bar during cocktail hour. During dinner, you just have to make small talk and if that's too awkward then just smile politely and listen to everyone else. It probably won't be the best wedding you've been to (most weddings where couples are split up usually aren't) but it will be tolerable.

Since your FH is in the BP... I think it would be preferable to show up to the ceremony... you might have a chance of meeting the other gfs and wives of the other groomsmen...

I have a similar experience my FH who was my BF at the time was the best man at his best friend's wedding. I did not know the wife to be and I was in another city sitting with complete strangers. I felt offended that I was noted as a plus one as well. I ended up going to both ceremony and reception and actually had a decent time and made conversation. My FH danced with me the whole night. I think he was really grateful I was there and didn't complain even though my group messages was full of my rants. I later told him about it.

Anyways going to weddings before yours is definitely a learning experience for what you want and don't want.

I know the feeling of being left out when you are with someone who is in a party.

The decision is totally yours. I don't think anyone would notice you skipping the ceremony.

Good Luck!