Sponsors / Help

Never heard of it, but I would never do that. If family members want to help financially, they can, but you definitely should not ask people to sponsor your wedding.

When i think of sponsors i think of little league baseball teams and stuff for kids. I think if your good so far why ask for handouts? It very well may be a regional/cultural thing, but i can't say that i've ever heard of it.

Personally i wouldnt do it.

Never heard of it, definitely wouldn't do it!

Since you mentioned "like the Hispanic culture does," I'm of the assumption that you aren't Hispanic (or any of the other cultures that also do the sponsors.) So add the to the "Don't do this" column.

Like the ladies have said, if people offer, great, but don't count that money until it's in hand. But even being Hispanic, I wouldn't have accepted sponsors, much less asked people to be sponsors. I've never been that traditional with the Spanish things, anyway.

When someone asks if you need help or need something. You should say like what? Say what kind of help are you talking about? They may be talking about cleaning your carpets or walking your dog or setting up your decorations.

I have kept a list of people who said they would help us and to please call them if we need anything. I have said I sure could use your help and will be calling you. This is for set up and stuff not money.

I had never heard of it either until the other day when my aunt said it was a Filipino tradition to sponsor part of the wedding and asked to sponsor my flowers. I would have NEVER asked for anyone to do that though

I was JUST having this conversation with my family this morning! They come from a very traditional Puerto Rican family but I tend to think differently from them. They think it's ok to ask for money (from sponsors) where I don't like the thought of it. However, if money is being offered I don't know if I would refuse it either. I just wouldn't ASK. Hope that helps.

Don't ask for anything. I have some friends that offered help on specific things and only accepted then because they were so darn persistent.

I'm filipino and as said its part of my culture. That said, no bride/groom getting married in the family has directly asked "Can you pay for X?" Usually what happens is the parents of the bride/groom talk about the wedding and different aunties offer to pay money for X or part of X. So basically as people have said, its more of a word of mouth type thing and its based off of families generosity.

For me, we haven't really decided what we're going to do. Economically its been tough for everyone and we've saved enough money to be able to host our wedding. But we've accepted help from family to do things such as flowers as my uncle is a florist. Most likely if my aunties offer I will accept a small monetary gift b/c its also offensive to refuse vehemently. LOL guess its a fine line.

My friend had a type of honeymoon fund but instead a wedding fund, so they registered for things like pay for flowers in small monetary amounts or whatever else to pay for their wedding in lieu of gifts.

Wendy C. That is exactly what we're in envisioning, we have to have a lechon but I think we'll make it for the welcome/rehearsal dinner. All I envision is like my big fat greek wedding where instead of the lamb in the front yard its a pig!

Oh and I showed the FH pictures of my siblings weddings where essentially they're pinned together with a viel and then tied together with a lasso, he thought it was going to be like shipyard rope haha!

I'm also Filipino! But I have never heard of sponsors. Our family is very generous and like Future Mrs. N said, I have an aunt that does flowers and cakes (owns a bakery) and has offered to do those things at a major discount. My family if VERY Americanized so we might be a little different but usually if someone is in a business they will offer their services and just give money to the bride and groom as a gift.

I'm sad we won't be having lechon!! But I bet my In-Laws would freak if they saw the whole pig. lol I can't wait for our reception! It's going to be an absolute blast!

If it isn't your culture, then no...though that is very kind and generous of people to do that!

Hi and yes I heard of that.. My family is Hispanic and I understand the whole sponser thing for the quince.. Some of my family even mention I do the same.. I didn't and don't feel comfortable asking but some have offered to help pay without me asking.. i think it's ok if they offered on their own but its up to you if you want to ask.

I am also Filipino-American and I understand the traditions about being a sponsor for the wedding. Traditionally, sponsors offer to pay for certain things of the wedding such as photography, church ceremonial gifts, cake, etc. It really depends on what path you want your Sponsors to partake in your wedding. For instance, I have sponsors at my wedding. However, the words "principle sponsors" don't apply to my fiancé and I as "financial support" for our wedding, since we are paying for the wedding entirely. Our sponsors are supporting us with guidance, religiously and morally on marriage, which helps tremendously and is better than receiving money, in our opinion.

But, that's our thing!!! It's entirely up to you how you want your Sponsors to contribute. If family say they'll help you, don't be afraid to ask for help; I'm sure they genuinely want to help in any way.

View Quoted Comment I am Mexican American. Accepting or asking for sponsors for a wedding are not little league or hand outs. Im guessing that if its not part of your particular ethnic culture its little league/ hand out or "not done"...therefore wrong. Asking or accepting sponsors in my culture and family is an honored tradition going back generations. Its how we show our young people love, teamwork and community within our families. A wedding is an extremely important even. Its about commitment and each other and their future family. We all get together and offer sponsorship of the photography, cake, decorations, music dj/band, invitations, limo...whatever we can...as a family community, together. And if a white person joins our family...the tradition continues...


I actually find it kind of mercenary that close friends and family dont sponsor or volunteer. What kind of person or actual friend are you that you would go to an event, eat, dance and have fun without contributing to the celebration in any way? Either by sponsoring or volunteering...Those types of people are not reall actual friends or family...they are just aquaintances who did not realize they were not supposed to rsvp...the invitation was just a courtesy. I would never throw out my child, nieces or nephews into a new marriage with a huge debt when they are just starting out...thats not family...thats not community. But i guess according to MANY OF YOU our long held and honored traditions are little league/ handouts and just "not done"...

I am Puerto Rican and lived on the island for a few years, etc my family is very traditional Puerto Rican and it was not until I came to the states that I found out about "Padrinos" or "God-Parents", sponsor sounds like the worst term to describe this but it is not unheard of for some Latino cultures to have god parents for certain parts of these big events. For a quincenera or sweet 15 birthday party, many family members/friends will pay for something such as: venue, limo, food, DJ, drinks, decorations, dress, etc and they are listed on the invites and honored at the event with some type of gift. At least thats what I saw growing up with my friends from different Latin countries. When my husband and I were planning our wedding his mother suggested that we do that but we didn't want our wedding to be what someone else thought was good for us instead we paid everything ourselves and had the wedding that we envisioned. If they pay they get a say so the less help you get the more freedom you have when choosing what you want for your special day.

View Quoted Comment Agreed! It’s always been such a normal thing in my family! I had sponsors for my quince and will for my wedding. I guess it depends on the culture. Of course we always toast to the sponsors even if they only contribute $5!