Spinoff: How much $ is appropriate as a wedding gift?

For me, $100 for the wedding and minimum $50 for a shower gift up to $100.

REALLY depends on where you are from and your income. I grew up with the idea that someone making $35k a year was rich. I never knew how much my mom gave, but we only went to two weddings growing up. When my oldest sister got married and I had just graduated high school, I gave her $60, which I felt like was a lot since I was saving to buy a condo and just starting out. But now that I have grown up, my FH gives $100 whether he is alone or with me (which was only 2 weddings). And some people on here are saying a lot more, but obviously some people can't afford to give $300 gifts, so don't feel pressured. I would be happy with anything received. My twin just got married in February and she is a total nasty B word. I was uninvited and re-invited so many times and she got so many family members mad at me for things I never did. So I think I gave her $40 for both FH and I attending because she sucks as a person But I did buy a $60 shower gift. Even though when I bought it, I was uninvited at the time and was going to leave for her anyways. And I was re-invited 2 days before the shower by her saying "I'm sorry for what you did to me. You should be at the shower." Last summer I was invited to an out of state wedding from a cousin who is loaded. I couldn't go so I spent $60 on their Honeyfund account and I still haven't received a thank you. Even though I'm not close with them, I'm not as hurt as other people would be. I'm pretty invisible and am often overlooked, so I'm not surprised.

FH and I bought a gift for $100 for the wedding we went to recently. The wedding before that we were still in college so our gift was only $50. The wedding was also out of town and the bride's family was extremely wealthy and her parents were paying for the entire thing, so I didn't feel that bad that our gift was less. I haven't gotten any gifts yet except from people who aren't invited so I don't really know the standard in our area.

I have my sister 75 bucks but we also spent a week at the destination so hotel andother costs adds up I just couldn't afford more

There is no "standard" amount. It's a gift. Give what you feel comfortable giving and what you can afford.

Personally, we give $250-$300 to friends and $350-$500 to family.

We typically get boxed gifts off the registry normally about $75 for friends. We'll probably give $100 USD to my cousin's wedding because we have to travel and also the exchange rate is awful right now so it's going to be over $100 for us. If they were my super close friend or family then I'd probably give $150 ish.

I never knew this! We always give the same amount for weddings, birthdays, baby showers...$50. I feel like a cheapskate! Well, FH IS a cheapskate. I'll be giving more from now on!

Everyone jumped on my ass for complaining about a $2.99 pastry brush someone added to my wedding registry. So I guess the appropriate answer is whatever you give someone as a gift is appropriate. Just saying...

100 pp for friends, more for family. I gave my sister 500 I think.

50pp for friends 100pp for family

FH and I usually give $100 because we're younger. Once we are more established financially, we'll give a little more.

@kristenann that makes sense...I'm about 45 min south of Philly so maybe it is a regional thing

I have been told (and generally try to follow this rule) to try to cover your cost or come close. So depending on the region it could be $50 per person or $150+ per person. If giving cash I try to give $100 for each person attending (so if FH & I attend a wedding we would give $200 min). I know prices vary greatly depending on location tho.

My minimum is $100 per person. If it is someone I am close to, then I give more.

How much do you give someone if your a BM in their wedding (and they're a BM in your wedding) and you have to travel cross country to be in their wedding? Her insert card said they're not doing a registry but having a money tree at the wedding? I'd never heard of a money tree, but I googled it and found lots of hits on it. I usually buy off registries; I've actually never given just money as a gift... I was thinking $100?

$50 for friends, really close family and friends $150-250.

Mrs.Dean - that was because you sounded like a spoiled, ungrateful brat in that post. And you're right - anything is appropriate. It's a gift. Glad you get it now.

$100 and up depending on who it is.

If friends I normally but $150 for both of us and $200 for family

Regional "norms" vary on what is an appropriate gift. For example, I grew up in a very rural area where people gave couples anywhere from $20-$200. Yet, each couple knew that the gift they received was hard earned by the giver but given with love. So my suggestion is to give whatever you feel most comfortable giving.