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Beginner August 2021

Speeches / Toasts - are they necessary at the reception?

LaToya, on February 19, 2021 at 2:00 PM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 23
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Hey beautiful brides, I have a question. Are speeches / toasts necessary at the reception? We don't want a lot of people just talking and embarrassing us. We are both very shy and don't like stories about us being told to a crowd. Would it be weird if they aren't done? Has anyone been to a wedding where speeches or toasts weren't done?

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Latest activity by Eniale, on February 21, 2021 at 2:42 PM
  • Shelly
    Rockstar January 2022
    Shelly Online ·
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    They're completely optional! If you aren't comfortable with them, then it's fine to not have them at all!

    I've been to a few weddings that didn't have speeches or toasts, and they weren't missed! Smiley shame

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  • LaToya
    Beginner August 2021
    LaToya ·
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    Thank you. Good because we don't want it lol.

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  • Michelle
    Rockstar October 2022
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    100% optional. We are not having any and those have mentioned that to are very happy. Plus we have never attended a wedding with speeches (and have been to many weddings between us) and no one missed them. The majority of WW feels you and guests will miss them if they are skipped.

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  • LaToya
    Beginner August 2021
    LaToya ·
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    I haven't been to many weddings but all the ones I've been to they had speeches or toasts and you could tell they were embarrassing for the bride and groom

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  • L
    Lady Online ·
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    I've been to a few with no toasts/speeches and they were great! I highly doubt that anyone would miss them (or even notice that they were skipped). Don't worry about it!

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  • Tori
    Devoted October 2021
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    Not at all! We're actually having speeches done at the rehearsal dinner and then my mom is making a welcome speech the day of at the reception. But having speeches is totally up to you! People won't even notice, especially if that means they get to eat dinner earlier or get on the dance floor sooner.

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  • LaToya
    Beginner August 2021
    LaToya ·
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    Awesome. I'm glad. It'd be my luck someone in my family still try to make a speech and I will have to shut them down.

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  • Michelle
    Rockstar October 2022
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    Leave that to your dj

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  • LaToya
    Beginner August 2021
    LaToya ·
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    Oh good point. Thanks

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  • Mcskipper
    Master July 2018
    Mcskipper ·
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    Not even a little. We didn’t have any at our wedding (aside from us standing up to thank our guests for coming). I certainly didn’t miss them!
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  • B
    Dedicated August 2022
    Bride2Be ·
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    I will be having speeches at my wedding but I love having family say nice things and don’t mind having embarrassing stories told! It’s completely optional and if you want you can have it limited to people you trust and know won’t embarrass you? Or skip them altogether! It’s truly your wedding and what YOU and your FH want to do!
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  • A
    Super September 2020
    Alli ·
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    Nope, we only had two people do a toast; and honestly nobody likes listening to toasts and speeches at weddings lol you’re fine!!
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    Lisa ·
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    They are not required at all. If someone does give a toast, it should be just that; a toast and not a speech. Also, let your DJ be 100% in charge of giving the mic to the person who is supposed to give a toast and then gave the DJ come take the mic from that person. If there is another person who will be toasting, the DJ can then give the mic to that person and rake it back when done. This eliminates any worry about the mic getting into the wrong hands.
    “Mic control” can be a part of a DJ’s job. Make sure a list of names has been provided and that the DJ knows who the person looks like.
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  • Kristen
    Dedicated October 2021
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    The only wedding I can remember going to where there were no toasts was my sister’s wedding in 2008. I think the main reason there were no toasts is because my sister and BIL don’t drink. I also don’t think my oldest sister and her husband did toasts; she just made a little thank-you speech. I want toasts at my wedding, though, and I hope my sister is working on one for the ages
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  • V
    Master July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    They are optional, but I've never been to a wedding without them.

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  • Sexypoodle
    Master October 2021
    Sexypoodle ·
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    It’s your choice! Weddings shouldn’t be stressful and full of mandates. We aren’t having toasts. But we also selected not to have a bridal party either. So our “toast” will be a message of thanks from us to our family and friends. Cheers! 🥂
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  • Eri
    Super October 2020
    Eri ·
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    We didn’t have toasts and it was totally fine! Granted, we downsized from 130 to 35 guests, but we weren’t planning on them originally anyway.
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  • Christy
    Just Said Yes April 2021
    Christy ·
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    I’m getting married in April. We aren’t doing speeches or toasts either!
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  • Ty
    Devoted July 2021
    Ty ·
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    We are eliminating it as well; only the maid of honor and best man will give a speech: that’s it.
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  • Nicole
    Devoted August 2022
    Nicole Online ·
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    We are skipping toasts and speeches too. More time to eat and hang out!
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