SOS!! Cancel the wedding at only 4 months to go?? Mental health awareness is important

I am sorry you are dealing with this. I didn't read all of the comments, but there is VERY effective therapeutic treatment for social anxiety disorder. and ALOT can be done using this treatment in 4 months. Social Anxiety Disorder is a very real thing, but it is not something you have to give up a wedding to accommodate. Look for affordable treatment (insurance or no) from community clinics and/or university training programs.

You saying FH doesn't believe in your illness is SUPER troubling.

I have SAD too, but I've gotten to the point where I can (usually) have my brave face on all of the time - but it is EXHAUSTING. if I'm not prepared for an event, like a last minute family gathering (oh, it's not just your parents? It's the whole extended family? Fking great), I'm miserable the whole time, itching to leave and likely making FH miserable because he's a social butterfly.

Do what you need to do. Do you still want the wedding? Just trim the guest list. Or cancel the whole thing.

And tell FH family to SHOVE IT

OMG -- their idea of 'compromise' is that you attend everything?!?!

I'm guessing that invitations have not yet been mailed? Can you cut your guest list to a size that allows you to be comfortable? Can you keep your venue and vendors with a smaller guest list?

Would you be more comfortable if you got legally married beforehand and then celebrate with the families in 4 months?

Many Caribbean people don't seem to take mental illnesses seriously and I say this as someone from the islands. You're in a really tough spot but your health comes first. See if your FH might be willing to elope. I know this is a long shot but an alternative would be to do a DW and price some of your family members out of attending. This way, you could have a smaller wedding. My cousin got married in Cancun in the middle of March after a very short engagement just to avoid having a large wedding.