Sooo what if you dont like your engagement ring?

I just asked my hubby and he said that he would want to know. We had a different opinion of what we liked in engagement rings but we went shopping and discussed things and he got me what I liked. If you did not go shopping than I would say don't say anything. I'm not telling to you flat out say that you hate it but find a way to hint at it. I ring symbolizes your union and even with a ring you don't like that doesn't change the symbolism. When you go ring shopping for a band you also can pick out a band that comes as apart of a set that does not go with your current ring at all. Then just wear the set.

@Chuwana... The bad thing is that WE DID go ring shopping together for him to see what I like and he got me NOTHING like what we looked at. The thing with him sometimes is that he has glitches and doesnt remember or what he sees gets scrambled in his head or he already has something else in his head but goes a total different route. And another bad thing is that we even had the lady write down all of the rings I liked from number one to number six. Either he lost it or he just wanted to do his own thing. In which I think it was pointless to even take me ring shopping if he was just not gonna get a ring close to what we looked at.

This is a very touchy subject. Ahhhh!

I think it'd be easier if I just wait til we go look at bands. How far in advance should we start looking at bands for the wedding?

REMEMBER: You can always change it later! Is it really worth hurting feelings over? UPGRADE at the first anniversary

My first ring was awful all the way down to the bag-gets and it was silver and gold. So luckily for me I am allergic to yellow gold and wasnt required to wear it. Eventually we decided we wanted to get it dipped so I could. Timed it just right and showed up at the jewelry store on V-day weekend when all the gorgeous rings were on sale. Got a new ring at a great low price and got my old ring dipped and it looks a billion times better. Mothers day is this weekend, you may have a shopping trip to plan or memorial day sale?

Ok, so I just asked my hubby about this, to get a guys opinion... he said he would definately want to know! He said you are the one who has to look at it the rest of your life, and you should have something you love

good luck! my gawd I wouldn't want to be in your shoes right now!!

My FH said he would want to know

@Bella... thanks! I value everyone's opinion. IF I get another, I would still keep this one to remind me of my first ring. Maybe wear it around my next or something

@Michelle... Well that 2 outta 3 guys that said they'd want to know. I just have a lot to think about on how to approach this situation. *sigh* This has really given me so much insight on so many different levels

I read some of the comments and I really think you should just talk it over with him but just be very tactful,if you two are taking the next step then I think he would want you to be happy with the ring you have to wear daily.I told my Fh when I didn't like the ring he was considering but I did it in a playful way as not to hurt his feelings. I got the ring I loved and he was so happy that I loved something he was able to pick out.You can keep quiet about it but he will know you don't like the ring by your actions or the way you respond when someone ask to see it,when a woman loves her ring it is like a pregnancy glow she will just be beaming.

read some of the comments and I really think you should just talk it over with him but just be very tactful,if you two are taking the next step then I think he would want you to be happy with the ring you have to wear daily.I told my Fh when I didn't like the ring he was considering but I did it in a playful way as not to hurt his feelings. I got the ring I loved and he was so happy that I loved something he was able to pick out.You can keep quiet about it but he will know you don't like the ring by your actions or the way you respond when someone ask to see it,when a woman loves her ring it is like a pregnancy glow she will just be beaming.

We had looked at white gold as well, but when i got my ring, it was so meaningful because it was his mother's ring. It's smaller than I had wanted, but we made up for it and picked a wedding band that has more stones than i had intended to get. Together, i think they are just PERFECT!

Maybe you can find a band that makes you happy.

I didn't go through that with my FH... he didn't propose with a ring because he was so scared I wouldn't like it and didn't want to disappoint me. Picking out a ring for you is like the hardest thing a guy can do. I do agree that you should maybe suggest getting an inexpensive bridal set for the wedding and let him know you can engagement ring as keepsake. My mom did the same thing. she would wear her engagement ring on the right hand and the wedding set on the left.

ShaTerra, I know how you feel..I was in the same boat! Like you, I went window shopping with my fiance to look at the kind of ring I liked. I even gave him a picture of it!! It was the classic white gold Tiffany setting, which is just a plain, skinny band with one diamond on it. The ring FH gave me was really wide and he came right out and said "It was the closest they had to what you wanted"...haha thanks for putting so much effort into it! I wore it for just about a year. When went to a jeweler to look at wedding bands together, everything I liked looked silly with my e-ring because it was SO wide, and FH noticed it too. HE was actually the one who said "Then why don't we get you a skinnier engagement ring?" AMEN, brotha! I asked him to reset my original ring with a different stone as a Christmas gift. I tried to do it very tactfully, and he was not hurt at all. He said his goal was for me to be happy, not to stroke his own ego. We were both very happy with the outcome!

This was a double-post, so I deleted it. But I want to reiterate that a good approach might be buying a set or two rings that go very well together and suggesting that you wear your original e-ring as a right hand ring, even if you have to replace the center stone with something else.

That's a hard one. I'll just say that I wasn't crazy about my ring when I got it either. FH and I went to look at rings and he knew I loved the 3 stone rings. When I got the ring, it just wasn't really what I loved. The band was just too plain. I made little comments about it and felt like a horrible person. To be honest, I was feeling jealous of my friends ring. Well, I ended up losing my ring at my parents house, months later. I freaked out! We looked for a few hours, literally tore the couch apart because I had dropped it and it fell in the couch. It was gone. Couldn't find it anywhere! I was devastated. I prayed about it, FH and I drove home and found the ring in our basement! How it got from my parent's house, traveled 60 miles to our house and ended up in the basement, I'll never know! I'd like to think that God was teaching me a nice little lesson about being thankful for what we have and to not covet material things. I've been in love with my ring since that happened! (cont)

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I certainly wouldn't want that for you! But it did help me realize how silly I was being. I would say that if you can't or don't think you will ever love your ring, that you tell your FH. You shouldn't feel the way you do about your ring. Maybe wear that ring on your right hand and buy a set, with an engagement ring and a band? Good luck!