Song requests

We did , I would say about 3/4 of our guests wrote in a song

View Quoted Comment How did you let guests know to do that?

I did and we’re still missing a ton of RSVPs and of the ones we do have only 1/3 sent them back and a lot of people put either really long slow songs or “silly” songs to jab at FH which means unusable... it’s worth it to get a few suggestions if it doesn’t mean too much work or extra postage. Depends on your people though.

Forgot to say. We put a card in the invite that said “help us choose songs that you’d like to hear /dance to at the wedding please return along with your RSVP.”

View Quoted Comment Okay. Awesome! How big did you make the card?

I'm gonna do it. It's a mostly family affair so I don't think well to many joke responses, most of his family is young too so they should be good requests!

We are doing a wedding website and there is a section on it to request songs.

We did it on the bottom of our RSVPs. We wrote "I promise to dance if you play __________________" Most people have wrote fun, party songs and its great to know what the crowd wants to hear.

We are doing online RSVPs through our wedding website, but minted allows you to attach questions for guests. I asked about dietary restrictions and also "what is one song you love to dance to?"

We did, everyone sent their wedding or love songs. If you do, make sure to be specific. I wish we would’ve wrote something like “ write some songs that will get you dancing on the dance floor.” Maybe that would have clued them in...

I personally didn't like the idea of the guests being able to request songs because I didn't want one person's preference to kill the dance floor. So for my wedding I had the DJ accept no requests except for me and my husband and he ruled the music to keep the floor busy. Now there are some perks to having a song request line on the RSVP card 1) it gives them something to look forward to 2) it makes that person more likely to dance when they hear their song. Another thing you'll want to take into account is, how many song requests will you have for your allotted reception time? I had 5 hours at the venue and roughly 80 guests if they requested a song for each person/ each couple, I would've had a minimum of 40 songs. Songs are usually around 3:30-4:00 min long doing the math for the minimum 3.5×40= 140 min which is 2 hr and 20 min. Of the 5 hours, the ceremony and reception were scheduled, so I had about 4 hrs for the reception, with each of the dances and the garter toss/bouquet toss, I only had 3hr 30 min, which left 1 hr and 10 min and dinner took about an hour, that leaves 10 min for my husband and I to dance to things we wanted to hear and this is the MINIMUM time frame. So my point, do the math, see how much time you'll have for you and your future husband to dance and have fun, and see if you are happy with it, of not change it. This is your day, you need to be happy! Don't worry about everyone else too much, they will just be happy to be a part of your day.

View Quoted Comment These were ours, we didn’t mount the song one so it was a little smaller than the RSVPs but not much. We did them to fit in the pocket so my measurements are very specific to our invite. Something like a little bigger than index card size that will fit in the return envelopes. We used text boxes on word, lined them up and then copy & pasted what we wanted printed them and cut them (my FMIL made the entire invitation by hand) worked out awesome!

We had someone do this and they never played our song lol. We were disappointed. It was on the RSVP card a line under.

We did this for our invitations. I would say about 50% put a song. I kind proofed them and most of them (not all) made it to the DJ's request list. sadly he didn't play any of the songs requested during dinner, so 80% of people didn't get their song request played so it wound up being pointless.

You should check with your DJ before anything. I wanted to do this “song request” thing but my DJ shot it down. We were already contracted with deposits down. He says he will take requests from the bride and groom only. He’s fairly reputable in this area so I was a little shocked by that! I asked him why and he said “just bc peter wants to hear Barbie Girl doesn’t mean everyone and your grandmothers should have to sit through it”. I guess when he started he used to take requests from everyone and it was hard to find music everyone liked. He’d play a song from their “request card” and only the requestor plus a few drunk family members would actually be on the dance floor. Then he started just “feeling” the night and what types of music got people on the dance floor having fun and that’s what he’s done since. Idk I’m still thrown off by it but We’ll see how it goes I guess!

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We just have an additional line on the response cards that says :

Please request a song:

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Buttttt....aren't the songs filtering through you and therefore requested by you?

I am keeping a list of the songs requested and have put them into 2 categories: play during cocktail hour and play during reception. I am handing them to the DJ along with any other songs/ music genre requests we have.

Any songs I truly hate I am just not giving to the DJ. And also sorry old people, you will have to "sit through" some music you probably don't like.

My DJ actually advised against this.

He said a lot of people might write in their own wedding songs or songs that mean something to them, so 90% of the song list would be slow.

He also said a certain song might remind them of another the night of, so just having a DJ open to suggestions throughout the night would be better.

So I'm just going to have the DJ announce that people can come up and suggest songs and if he has it, he'll play it depending on time and the mood in the room.

My friend did this at her wedding, and I don't know about anyone else's requests (or if they made one), but I heard mine and it was early in the evening when it would have been appropriate, and there were a lot of people on the dance floor.
I would like to do this, as our DJ has a list online where FH and I can make a do not play, definitely play, and maybe play. Everything would be filtered through us, but if nothing else, I've seen this DJ work a wedding before, and he knows how to adjust with the crowd. I'm not worried about it, and I'm frankly excited to see what people do request.

I plan to add a line on my RSVP cards for a song request. Hoping a lot of people will participate!